My dd is just over three and for the last two months or so has been pushing like crazy. A complete and total reversal of personality. She is the Jekyll and Hyde of three year olds, and it is freaking me out. Not that I want her to be always obliging of everything everyone says, but to stand there and smile looking at me as she does something that I just asked her not to do, over and over, is driving me batty. And I have been noticing in the last few days that she will do something JUST to make me upset. Or to see what will happen I suppose, pushing those limits ever so far... Today she said to me are you mad mommy? be mad. ??? huh?
I think I have been so patient and gentle, and I am trying to understand so hard where she is coming from and why, but whew this is tough. Two was a breeze compared to this. My dh is stupified, and utterly passive, which doesn't help bc she walks all over him, literally. And it makes it so much harder for me. He doesn't know how to be assertive, and is lousy at it.
I have read and read, and a lot of the reading has been extraordinary, and so useful, and then there are times when I draw a blank. How could she be soooo stubborn and obstinate and contrary? and I am so exhausted with the struggle that I just have no idea what I am doing at times.
Sorry for the rant, I am burnt out today and feeling like a mommy on edge feeling guilty and lost.