Join Date: Jan 2004
Location: Prince George, BC
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Originally Posted by Chanley
I usually say, That's fine, you can hate me but you still have to xyz. Or just validate what they are saying, Yes, i hear you that you are angry and you hate me but I still love you and you still have to xyz.
I am really into repeating what I hear so they know I hear them. Loving me is optional, I will still love them. plus I know they dont mean it.
|That you guys so much for all of your support and help. It means the world to me. What I settled on doing was (when she did it again... today ... sigh)
" I know that you are very angry right now because mommy wants you to have some quiet time (it was nap time) but I think that you can find a better way of telling me that you are mad can't you?"
to which she responded... "I'm so mad because I was watching Dora and you want me to sleep! I want to watch dora!"
I really didn't give her time to change gears... I just turned off the tv and told her it was nap time. We agreed that next time I'll set the timer for 5 minutes and when it goes off then that means nap time.
We'll have a go of it tomorrow and see how that goes!