hang in there, eventually you'll figure it out, and this too shall pass! the red 40 is immediate with us too. the high fructose corn syrup doesn't help, of course, but even in something where the sugar quantity is very small we've seen the effects. it's much easier to track than dairy or wheat. I am soon to embark on the gluten-elimination journey to see if it resolves ds's constipation issue
but that's for another thread!
for us, though, diet is only part of the picture. I know what you mean about labels, and I avoid using them when I think it will be detrimental, but I also find it helpful to understand that children are all different. some demand much more energy and creativity from their caregivers in order to get a handle on their energy, their emotions, etc. my ds is extremely intense, and he really challenges me. I am very verbal (ya think?
) and not very physical, and while he's pretty verbal he is extremely
physical. he is definitely high needs. when he was a baby, I had no choice but to hold him all the time when he was awake, or he would scream. this didn't bother me a bit, and I figured it was appropriate-- he had no medical problems and just wanted to be held! later I saw other babies who would wake up from a nap and just look around contentedly, and I thought, wow, I didn't know they could do that! now that ds is turning 3 in a couple of weeks he has boundless energy, and I don't always know how to keep up, which is when I get clobbered
: but a "new" development for us has been the elimination of tv-- I put new in quotes since it's not like I didn't know this already, I was just afraid to try it
we had a gnarly sinus infection this week and spent TOOOOO much time watching videos, and his energy was totally unmanageable (I know, duh, right?). I decided to try preparing him a couple of nights ago, telling him the next day we wouldn't watch any and instead we would play and paint etc. I expected major rebellion and was prepared to be flexible, but instead he surprised me and was the fantastic kid I know he can be! the only time he brought it up was when he had his Stellaluna puppet ask to watch tonka trucks
it was so sweet! I just told him to remind Stellaluna that we weren't watching tv today, we were playing instead because it's much more fun, and he said, "okay, I want to build a tower!" and ran off to do so! later dh told me he was telling Stellaluna about how we weren't watching tv today, etc while they were playing. he used his mind so much more, and played outside more, took a better (and earlier) nap, went to bed easier... we've been tv-free for 48 hours and it has been amazing! I was completely shocked, and it may not go this way for others, but if you haven't tried it yet I encourage you heartily! if it generates major violence going cold turkey you can always try some weaning method-- don't mkae yourself miserable! just see what happens and roll with it. you may be delighted!
wow, sorry this was so long!