I am so at a loss for what to do for my almost 2 1/2 year old ds ... he is screaming, hitting, kicking, biting ... usually my 4 1/2 year old ds, though sometimes me or dh. He does it and laughs, and this is multiple times a day. If I'm not giving him 150% of my attention, then he goes to town (and lately that's only been when I need to go to the bathroom or get food together for a meal). Unfortunately I don't even have the energy right now to give him 150% if I wanted - I'm 32 weeks pregnant and uncomfortable and tired.
I feel like a large part of his behavior is related to being too tired ... he's not sleeping well at night and not usually napping well either (and he does still typically need a nap because otherwise he'll crash at 4:30 for a couple hours and then we are really in trouble at night). I told dh that there is not more loud/rough/energy play after 7pm, and that lights need to be out at 9pm (ds#2 is up religiously by 8am, though lately it's been earlier). I start my days sometimes in tears because I know it's going to be another really long, stressful, emotionally exhausting day and I can't keep doing it.
We are trying to switch from punitive discipline to gentle parenting, but I can't get him to stop biting/hitting/hurint, and sometimes I feel the only thing to do before I get angry and spank is to put him in his room by himself (closed door). I don't like doing that either.
The rest of the time, when he's not being so aggressive and hurting, he is the sweetest thing, but his hitting/biting/etc is wearing me so darn thin. I don't like ds#1 being the target either ... he shouldn't have to live in fear every time his brother comes towards him. There are times I think ds#1 makes the situation worse, and we are talking with him about that (ignoring little brother, running away like he's playing chase, etc), but I want to know how to curb the hurting. They usually play so well together, but the little thing in ds#2's eyes will set him off (ds#1 making a new rule or even singning a song or something trivial). Then all holy heck breaks out, my blood pressures sky-rockets, and it stinks big time.
I really am at the end of my rope and don't know what to do ... I know this is probably a stage/phase, but when it's daily, numerous times a day, it doesn't matter how short-lived the phase may be ... one more day is one more day too many. Help please.