Originally Posted by melinak
While I agree that making a big deal out of something that isn't really going to harm her in the long run...which is why I did let it go anyways, I am reminded of the days when I was exclusively nursing her and many people thought that it would be helpful for me to go out and get a drink with my cousins and they would offer to just give dd a bottle while I was gone.
I understand that red dye and sugar and processed foods aren't something that once in a blue moon are detrimental to my childs otherwise healthy eating habits, but I wouldn't have bent on the above example then, why is it that I should be doing that now...just a question as to why, other than being rude, pp think that would be okay.
Not trying to create any conflict, just trying to understand the rationale!?
Okay, here's what I think.
They probably thought you wanted a break, and so by offering to give your dd a bottle (which you could have pumped) were trying to do you a favor. I just don't see the malice behind that. I don't see the difficulty in explaining that you'd just rather not do that, either.
As far as my kids seeing relatives, I let them eat what is being eaten in that house. When my children are at my in-laws, they feed their kids special meals of hot dogs and popsicles while the adults eat something else (which isn't usually particularly healthy either, but I digress). I think it's gross, but it's their house, and I certainly don't think it's going to kill them to eat half a hot dog every month. Or even hurt them. If my dd sees hot dogs in the store and asks for them, I tell her that we don't buy those, that I
don't think they're good for you. She's never had a problem with that, at all.
I'm not trying to offend you, but it does sound like your aunt is a kind, loving person who is trying to develop a relationship with your daughter, separate from her relationship with you. I think that will do your daughter so much good, far and above any harm that she may incur from eating some processed cheese and white bread.