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#181 of 191 Old 09-23-2006, 12:26 AM
 
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Do you ever plan to have another child? If so, what will you do when/if your daughter wants to go one way and the baby wants to crawl another? How will your newly-walking toddler keep up with your older child? What if the baby wants out of the car seat and the older child needs to go preschool?
Is preschool really a need though?

Not to derail this thread but I personally chose not to leash my children but to stay home when I couldn't manage four toddlers in public, which I couldn't.

They make me uncomfortable, personally. I had no money for a double, triplet or quad stroller. So I stayed home a lot and enjoyed my children there.

No judgement, just my own experience and opinion.
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She was using preschool as an example, I believe. Like when your 4 yr old needs to get her hair cut and has an appt... etc. Obviously, staying home for however many years is not something many people WANT to do either. I don't think I'd just stay home because I didn't want to use a harness... I'd lose my mind...
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She was using preschool as an example, I believe. Like when your 4 yr old needs to get her hair cut and has an appt... etc. Obviously, staying home for however many years is not something many people WANT to do either. I don't think I'd just stay home because I didn't want to use a harness... I'd lose my mind...
I agree. Actually a preschool would probably be the most likely place a little one could go "without" a harness. They love the littlest kiddos at my daughter's preschool.

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Obviously, staying home for however many years is not something many people WANT to do either. I don't think I'd just stay home because I didn't want to use a harness... I'd lose my mind...
I couldn't have done that to dd. She needs to get outside and move around and explore. I think all kids do, to some extent. But, dd really needs to. She gets just nutty if we stay home for more than two or three days max. I'd lose my mind, but not as quickly as she would.

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Yeah, that too. My son gets stir crazy.
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i guess they're ok, but i personally woulden't use one. to much like a dog leash for me.
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Actually, when I made the preschool comments I was thinking about her statement that she stops the car if her DD wants out of the carseat (uh...on the highway, too?) I think I phrased it confusingly. Anyway, my point was that I think holding everyone to the (VERY HIGH) standard of not ever putting a child in a sling, stroller, harness, carseat or arms unless he/she actively requests it is a going a little (okay, a lot) too far. I actually only have one child, but I have many friends w/more than one, and believe me, they pop one or the other into the carrier, stroller, or whatever because they just plain old have to. It's just reality.

Your child wouldn't have to be 4, either, before you'd deal with this--I don't know about your baby, but mine could crawl like LIGHTNING at 8 months. Baby wants to crawl this way, 3yo won't hold hands...so what do you do? And obviously, many people do have their kids closer together.

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I'm seriously considering getting one. I don't have a special needs child. But, he's never liked the stroller and at 2, he only wants in the sling when he's in just the right mood. And he doesn't want to hold hands.
I think if I got the backpack, he could do his little toddler thing while I keep him safe.
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The only thing I can add to this is that the "reins" as they are called in the UK give my child more freedom than she has otherwise, she loves them. She much prefers to be wearing them than to have to hold hands all the time as when she has her reins on she can stop to pick up stones and flowers, she can run in circles round me which makes her giggle and she has freedom of movement that she doesn't have while holding hands.
If we are in a Mall, or somewhere relatively safe then she has total freedom to explore, she doesn't wear reins, go in a stroller or sling unless she is tired and requests it, but if we are walking by the road and the option is to hold hands with Mummy or wear her reins she chooses her reins all the time.
I have NEVER once used them to pull her in the direction I want to go, she still walks where she chooses, and I follow behind her. If I need to guide her I do it by holding her hand, by talking with her and telling her which way we are going and why, but having her reins (which are only about a foot long) looped round my hand keeps her from being able to run out into the road, or step in front of a car in the parking lot.
They are also invaluable for knowing that she cannot snatch her hand out of mind and run off just at the moment I'm leaning into the car to grasp my purse etc, or distracted finding the car keys in my bag.
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I saw a little boy that I wish had on a harness today. I was leaving the store and as I'm driving through the parking lot, this little boy goes darting in front of me and I slammed on the brakes. What's really sad is the mom gave me a dirty look, like I was doing something wrong.
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