DS went off exploring the new houses that have been built and was "practicing not stepping on the lines" on a porch that had diamonds cut into the cement. He kept doing it over and over and over. I knew he was hungry and tired (3rd day at pre-school) so I told him "ok, last one." Well he stepped on a line but I said "oh, well you can try next time and he started heading home but then wanted to go to the next house to do the same. I told him that Daddy just got home, pizza was coming, I'm hungry also, and picked him up and carried hime home. He freaked out and struggled and struggled but I kept carrying him home, brought him in the house. Set him on the ground but he bumped his foot, so Ipicked him up to console him. He's still mad because I carried him home and he is out of his mind screaming at me and then all of a sudden WHACK!!! Both hands hit me, one whacked me right in the ear and It hurt so bad. I couldn't hear and it was ringing. It's still ringing. So i plopped him on the couch and walked away crying, he follows me. I tell him to give me space, he tells me he is going to follow me, I sit down, he;s right there. I tell im not to touch me and giv me space and to sit away from me. He smiles and touches me, so i get up and try to lock myself uup in a room but he figures out how to open the door. I'm still crying and I'm fuming because I need my space to calm down and he keeps encroaching. I tell him I need my space, I'm angry, I can't hear out of my ear (i tell him that about 4 times and he asks me why I keep saying that), I tell him we don't hit, if you need to hit , hit the floor or scream but don't hit people. Hitting hurts, it hurts my outside and my inside, my heart and my soul. I ask if he is still angry, he says no, i told him I still hurt. I tell him that anger goes away but hurt stays longer. I try to geet m space, he follows me, I walk out into the backyard and close the sliding glass door. He freaks out. I come back into the house and tell him again that I need my space as I'm still crying because my ear still HURTS and I can't hear, and I'm angry because I can't understand why the hell he continues to hit when he is upset. He has options, he used them before, but now he just wants to hit me. I tell him that when I say I nedd my space I need to be left alone so I can calm down and when he follows me it makes me more angry, I'm sorry mama, i didn't know that. I tell him that hitting is not ok, not the way to handle our anger, we don't hit anyone, hitting hurts. It hurts inside and out. II'm sorry mama, I didn't know that. But I tell you that every time, I've told you that even when we just talk about it. Why can't we hit people. Because it hurts and you don't understand because you have never been hit (not even a little friedn has hit him). That's the problem, mama, I've never been hit. I don't want you to be hit. Why? Because it hurts! And I don't want you to hurt. Go get my husband from across the street and don't really deal with the kid for the rest of thenight. He didn't really want to have anything tod o with me either. Later, I thanked him for apologizing and that I didn't acknowledge it earlier becaue I wasn't ready to accept it at that point but that I did appreciate him saying sorry.
Just had to vent, kids went to bed late, hubby went to bed early, so I had nobody to vent to.
Thanks
Just had to vent, kids went to bed late, hubby went to bed early, so I had nobody to vent to.
Thanks