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|Originally posted by sparklemom
you can also probably assume that in addition to being spanked these girls on oprah were also never really shown a sincere unconditional love from their parents.
|Originally posted by sparklemom
no offense taken. it's no secret that statistically most people who find themselves in abusive relationships when they're grown came from an abusive family. of course there are exceptions.
and yes, as far as one of the specific questions posed it is true that kids that are spanked have a harder time seeing that hitting is simply unacceptable.
i would certainly not even for one second let from-the-hip judgements or superficial appearances get in the way of finding help.
|Predictors Of Domestic Violence
Did he grow up in a violent family? People who grow up in families where they have been abused as children, or where one parent beats the other, have grown up learning that violence is normal behavior.
|A growing body of evidence indicates that perhaps the parent or authority figure who uses the rod, spoils, or at least harms, the child, especially a girl child.
In fact, a growing number of experts believe that children, in general, and girls, in particular, should not be spanked at home or subjected to corporal punishment at school. Experts say such spankings can precondition girls to accept violence and boys to rely on it.
...it is setting those girls up to be victims of future male authority figures, whether it be a boyfriend, husband or employer...
... "The intention of spanking is to cause pain and the causing of pain to girls and then saying 'I love you' is not healthy."
... it has harmful side effects that can include juvenile delinquency, domestic abuse and even depression.
...Another study shows that children who are spanked have more difficulty with interpersonal relationships...
"Spanking... teaches physical response to problems and immediate obedience."
"It's all part of a cycle of violence--loss of self esteem, accepting violent behavior..."
"Just as we as a society no longer condone a man striking his wife," he says. "We as a society should no longer condone the striking of our children, especially our daughters."
Experts: Spanking Harms Children, Especially Girls
By Melinda Rice - WEnews correspondent
September 23, 2001
|I am not defending spanking here but, I see sexual abuse as something that some one is getting some sort of sexual satisfaction out of. My dad physically abused us but, it was the face, arms, legs(pretty much anywhere but the bottom)that was the worse places. As bad as he was I don't believe he got sexual gratification out of it.|
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