I'm sorry, I have not read all the other replies,hope I am not repeating!
Good for you(and your son) that you stopped spanking!!!!!
With my dd, I used a "super version of you scared the cra* out of me reaction!" that means, I SCREAMED as she darted toward the street, ran to her, started BAWLING, and firmly grabbed her and speaking in a half yell half shaken voice, said(something like...) " NO STREET!!!! DDs FEET STAY IN THE GRASS!!!" A few times of this, and she didn't push it...
But! I never really gave her many chances either! Wasn't worth it for me!
With ds-it is really different-he has tried many times to run into the parking lot at the park,into thew streeat at our house!
He seems amused that I act upset. Frankly, I am AMAZED at his speed and determination!!!!
It truly is my goal to get to the end of the day with him alive and well!
Our driveway is steep,our street semi-busy....I will NOT take him out front unless I am prepared to chase him...I mean COME ON!!! I need to pull dandelions,etc out front, but I can't trust that he will play nicely while mommy works,etc....SO THE WORK DOESN'T GET DONE!! So what? They are little for such a short time...my kids are more important than my yard!!!
It takes more work, and sacrifice, but this too shall pass!
OOOOOHHHHHH!!!! I almost forgot this!!! WE never let dss feet touch any street ever! WE always make it a big deal-the street is sacred,etc...only for big kids and cars,etc... just last night, we were out for dinner,after, when it came time to cross the street, we picked up ds(as always) to cross....we never let the feet touch the forbidden area!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!KWIM?????