No, I don't mean like crazy voices in your head, or anything like that. LOL!!:
This thread is more of an observation than anything else........
What I mean is that sometimes, I feel that I hear other people's comments resounding in my head which leads me to question my own gut instincts. I read an article once (maybe it was here at MDC) that talked about how today's parent is inundated with so much material that when your child does something, before instinctively responding, you start thinking about what X person said you should do, or what Y person said you shouldn't do. The end result is that we start to question ourselves and the moment of *learning* for the child has passed. I guess sometimes I feel that way.
Example: If dd takes my wallet, my instinct is to distract her and give her something else to play with. But then, the "voices" (for lack of a better term
: ) start in:
Should I be doing this or should I offer her an alternative? Should I redirect or does that mean that I am giving in? If I say "No" then I am overusing the term....If I allow it, then I am too permissive.....KWIM?
: By the time I am done doing my mental gymnastics, DD has pulled out all my credit cards and is throwing them around!!
Today's parents especially have sooooo much information at their fingertips...books, classes, internet, e-mail, t.v. etc. I, for one, love jumping on the net, MDC or BCB and looking up new parenting tips, advice, chatting, etc. I also love reading the latest books with the newest research. But, in this vast field of knowledge that we amass, I think that sometimes our own instincts get replaced with other people's views. Sometimes I just have to take a step back and ask myself, "What does your own good judgment tell you, you should do in this situation??" Afterall, how did our parents and others get byand become good parents without all of this additional input?
IN any event, it's just an observation I thought I'd throw out there. Anyone else feel that way??