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Hi, My dd is 11 months old and so far has been a delightfully easy tempered baby! We are just now having our first problem! I have an Ergo baby carrier and she goes on my back in it. I have long hair. She pulls it! I have gently taken her hands off of it and tried to re-direct her to a toy or a strap on the carrier she likes to chew on. It usually doesn't work. I have yelled "ouch" when she has suprised me by yanking. It starteld her and made her cry but didn't slow the pulling.
I have tried putting my hair up but there are these little whisps of it at the back of my neck and she pulls these. UGH!!!
She loves the carrier usually and it is a necessary place for her as I am a dog groomer and groom a few dogs a week at home and just have to have her in it to work. She is very attached and wants to be in arms most all the time so it works out great.
I have been considering reaching up and pinching her hand when she yanks my hair to get her to let go but something about that feels wrong to me. What has me wondering if it would be effective is her interaction with a cat I have. Our cat just loves her. He comes running and lays down in front of her and she pats (pounds) on his head and mushes his face and he just loves it! He does not like his tail being grabbed and it is apparent that he has bitten at her because when she grabs his tail, he turns around as if to nibble on her and she immediately lets go. That tells me that she knows that there is an unpleasant consequence to his mouth! (I try to always supervise them and he has never left a mark on her but this *lesson* happened out of my sight.)
I have done alot of dog training and I have always told people that hands are for loving not hurting. It is not a good idea to hit your dog.
By pinching her fingers, I feel like I would be violating the "hands are for loving" idea, so it doesn't seem right ......but.......I'm wondering if it would get her to stop hair pulling.
Any suggestions and opinions on my musings here! Thanks so much.
I am learning alot at this board. My dh was spanked/beaten as a kid and knows he has some learning to do and is very against spanking!!! But he is aware that you revert to what you know. He is committed to learning something new. So am I and you folks here are very helpful.
"To err is human, to forgive, canine." - Unknown