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|View Poll Results: Have you ever spanked?|
|Yes, once or twice but never again||98||22.58%|
|Yes, more than once or twice but never again||69||15.90%|
|Yes, I used to spank but now don't||35||8.06%|
|No, I've never spanked||202||46.54%|
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Candace, Married to dh , Mom to ds (8) , Gavin (9/30/10 - 12/19/10) and cautiously expecting our 4-29-12
One thing that I find interesting - alot of people equate spanking with anger. I don't. And alot of people seem to think it is more forgivable if you have spanked out of anger than if you spanked out of thinking it was a good form of discipline at the time? I don't. I think it is wrong, wrong to take anger out on a child physically. Just thought it was interesting...
No it's not, but I think it can get a lot harder when kids get older, if you were spanked and had issues. When my ds was a baby, it was easy to say "I would NEVER do that." Now years later, I admit there have been times I had to try hard not to. He's tough sometimes when I'm drained, and I am virtually deprogramming myself from my own upbringing.
eta: ok i see you said you were spanked as well, so you know how that goes. Spanking is never acceptable, but I just think it's harder for some among us due to varying pressures and varying experiences. I never dreamed it would be so hard at times to not repeat what my parents did, once I knew I so badly didnt' want to do it. Another reason not to do it to your own children.
Although, I will also say that I think their non-corporal punishment methods of parenting effected me more: the authoritarian attitude (they were ALWAYS right), the periodic shaming, and the conditional love (to borrow Kohn's phrasing) that made me feel like I was only loved if I behaved well. I think those were all worse than spanking,.
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