I have a question that perhaps some of the buddhist moms will understand a little better.
When teaching my child to express her feelings, or when simply getting her to talk about something that happened, I am offering words for her to express her feelings. For example, "When I left you at preschool you were angry with me, weren't you?" Of course she says yes.
When I hear other mothers doing this I feel like they are projecting their own feelings (specifically their fear that the children were angry at them) onto the child. It sounds ridiculous to me sometimes.
However, sometimes it seems to help Iris and me when we can talk about how she felt at a particular moment. But I worry that I'm doing this only to ease my own mind, not hers.
Is there a better way to talk about emotions? Or do you all think it's perfectly fine the way I'm doing it?