How do you deal with all the little frustrations that a 2 year old brings? I am just so tired of it taking an hour to get out the door, or my daughter doing the same thing that I keep telling her not to do (and guiding her away from), or argh! all the other things, you know what I mean. I am finding myself speaking rather harshly to her or grabbing her arm to get her to comply, but, of course, this doesn't work. I am desperately trying to avoid becoming my mother who relied on spanking and yelling, which still affects me to this day. Any suggestions will be appreciated.