So Dd is 2.5 and almost always the loudest, most bossy, aggressive tot in any given setting. I have learned that I need to provide her with more structure, routine, socialaztion opportunities without me around. In hopes she will learn some boudaries from her peers instead of me constantly redirecting her and doing damage control. I feel ashamed when she hurts other kids by throwing stuff, pushing and the like. She sees me so stressed and glouts! UGH! She is more verbal then typical and very astute. Wants to make friends but doesn't allow for guidance on how. She just grabs a hand and pulls, says, "you friend?" Most always the other kids bolt. She is the kid on the top of the slide yelling "My slide!" and pounding her heels on it with all her might.
I have held the AP ideals, extended breastfeeding, co-sleeping, natural living with kid led discovery play for hours (days) on end. My partner is Hispanic, feels that Dd is spoiled by all this and deserves a smack on the ass...saying, its the only way she'll get it. This is a cultural issue for sure and we are talking it through. In the meantime I'd really like some advice on how to help her learn boundaries without lots of talking to or hitting. She would probably learn these limits best from peers that are not easily intimidated...but it is hard to find em! help!!!
I am grateful for Mothering community, you are awesome sisters whi inspire and guide...thanks!