Mamas, I'm feeling like the worst parent in the world tonight, and I could use your help. My oldest ds (5) is having some trouble in preschool, and his teachers (whom I truly respect and trust- it took us 3 tries to find a pre-k that he could grow in and enjoy, and these wonderful women are so nurturing, so loving, and he loves them) have recommended that we have a counselor come in to offer some insight.
His trouble is with impulse control- things like moving on when he cannot have his way, grabbing things away from other kids, interrupting "persistantly and frequently" and being very "single minded". He sees something he wants and goes after it- no thought to the kids he has pushed out of the way, tackled, etc, until after the incident. Once it is pointed out ot him, he is so sorry and sad that the teachers feel bad because he is a very social kid and wants so badly to play with kids, but his lack of ability to control himself is very overwhelming to most kids, and they avoid him.
How do you deal with this? I have read more GD books than I can count, but I am still having trouble with this. Is the counselor a good idea? Any downsides?
I am at a loss, because we see this behavior at home, and no matter how much I try to install empathy, or give him ways to learn control, he seems to be unable to do so.
Any ideas?
His trouble is with impulse control- things like moving on when he cannot have his way, grabbing things away from other kids, interrupting "persistantly and frequently" and being very "single minded". He sees something he wants and goes after it- no thought to the kids he has pushed out of the way, tackled, etc, until after the incident. Once it is pointed out ot him, he is so sorry and sad that the teachers feel bad because he is a very social kid and wants so badly to play with kids, but his lack of ability to control himself is very overwhelming to most kids, and they avoid him.
How do you deal with this? I have read more GD books than I can count, but I am still having trouble with this. Is the counselor a good idea? Any downsides?
I am at a loss, because we see this behavior at home, and no matter how much I try to install empathy, or give him ways to learn control, he seems to be unable to do so.
Any ideas?