Join Date: Feb 2002
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It is increasingly difficult to maintain patience with my 9yo daughter. On the whole things are really great. We started homeschooling this year, have lots more friends, time, activities, better education, etc. Mom and Dad are both moving ahead in freelance/self-employed work.
As a former Waldorf teacher I know there's a lot out there about the "nine year change" and that they can become monstrous at this age- violent mood swings, amazing lack of consideration and manners mixed with lots of consideration/maturity- most of the time we've got a fabulous, smart, funny creative person around. The problem is we have no warning when Beastchild will emerge, and we do get quite angry.
I understand she's moving through an important phase, and that at this age wanting to grow up conflicts sharply with wanting to be a baby forever and the sadness that this can't be, but I would love advice (or just commiseration) from other parents who might be able to help. We don't really punish, ever- part of the problem is she's always been *so* well behaved, easy, kind, cooperative that we have no clue how to cope with this. I vascillate between guilt over expressing anger and the idea that she should know when she's making people angry; between feeling for her: oh she's only nine, and exasperated: she's nine for god's sake!