My dd just turned two last month and up until this point, strangely enough, she has been a very mild-mannered child, didn't get disturbed about too much except when she was tired or feeling bad.
Now, I don't know if this is b/c i am more stressed lately, we are planning a big move and buying out first home, but she has been driving me crazy. My dh is hardly ever at home too, right now, so I think this is also part of the problem, she misses him like crazy.
So, we are dealing with new issues and I need some advice desperately. I don't know where to go in this new territory.
For example, today we were having lunch and dd decides she wants some soup out of the bowl, but the bowl is flimsy (japanese take-out) and it is warm so I told her we needed to put the soup in a better bowl, she said okay, so I did it, and b/c she wanted to do it, as soon as I put the bowl down she tipped it over all over the table and said NO! I picked her up off the chair and put her on the floor, I was very upset and started yelling at her while I was cleaning it up. She in turn got upset. I hate yelling at her, and it doesn't happen very often, but it seems to lately. A minute later, I calmed down and went to her and calmly told her why it was wrong to spill the soup and what she needs to do instead. But I would rather not go through the first episode... What should I have done in that situation? I tell her over and over again, why we don't spill things and try to show her what to do instead, but this happens all the time.
Soon after this happened I gave her a cup of juice with a spill-proof top, b/c she spills everything, purposefully, on the floor soon after I give it to her. But of course she wanted the full open bottle of juice, not the cup, so she proceeded to throw the cup across the room.
What do I do? What should I do? Is this normal 2yo behaviour, if there is such a thing? I would love to calmly sit down and talk to her everytime this happens but after the tenth time in one day it gets a bit hard to remain the ever sane, calm, cool mama.
Any advice, tips, suggestions, stories, or support would be wonderful. I am planning on reading Kids, Parents, and Power Struggles very soon, as soon as I get a moment to do so.
Thank you so much.