Join Date: Dec 2002
Location: long island, NY
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khrisday, hey i'm all for her expressing her emotions, just not with her fist or her teeth!! I cannot accept her violent behavior and I want it to stop. I understand what you mean about helping her express her intentions. It may be sometimes that her frustration levels escillate (sp?) and she doesn't know how to cope so she just snaps, then bites or hits.
My question - is this a punishable offense? When she bit him I took her aside and firmly explained that biting and hitting is not allowed, and that I would not accept that behavior. If she had a problem to talk to me about it, and never to hurt her brother again. So when she did the very next day - by bonking him on the head I just snapped and sent her to her room for time out, then afterward we had a long talk about how we treat others with respect and never hurt another person. That she is setting an example for him, as he grows up he will think that hitting okay and he will start to hit her back. We teach love and show love, and never hurt one another.
I have the feeling that her behavior is driven partly by frustration and partly by the power she feels over him.
So now what do I do??!!!