So I'm realizing that a lot of tension comes up w/transitions in our family. DD is almost 5 yo and is both highly sensitive and spirited. I am looking for ways to smooth transitions for her - any transition can be difficult - sleeping to awake, dad coming home, visitors, etc. I try to provide warnings, give her a lot of "heads up" time, etc. Here is our current biggest struggle:
She goes to preschool. When I pick her up, the kids are all outside playing. I have ds (16 mos) and am picking up dd and two other kids to take home. Other mothers and their younger kids are there, too. DD runs around screaming (as do all the other kids) and getting worked up - She focuses in on a few moms and toddlers she likes - then proceeds to pour mulch on the younger ones heads, hug them off their feet, give some moms hugs while planting her face firmly in their buttocks/crotch, roughly tickling her peers, yelling at moms over their conversations to tell them about something - generally being too rough/loud. I have tried to hold her and calm her a bit, but she shrieks and struggles away from me, and as I am supervising ds in the midst of other big kids, I have trouble. I try to let her know when something can hurt or is not polite or too rough, but she can't "hear" me in this situation and there is just so much going on that it is hard for me .
And I get stressed out - to see her being rough w/the littler ones is hard for me to be calm - easier w/my own, but harder under the watchful eyes of the other moms, who's kids seem to be happy to play w/each other for a few more minutes rather than starting in on the babies.
Would love any ideas or suggestions for lots of transitions throughout the day and this scenario specifically. Thanks so much!