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Kids Are Worth It: Giving Your Child... (B. Coloroso) 25 100.00%
Parenting Young Children: Systematic... (D. Dinkmeyer) 0 0%
How to Talk To Your Kids So They Will... (A. Faber) 43 100.00%
Raising Your Spirited Child... (M. Kurcinka) 13 86.67%
The Continuum Concept: In Search of... (J. Liedloff) 19 100.00%
Natural Learning Rhyhms: Discoveing... (J.&S. Luvmour) 0 0%
Parenting Without Punishment (J. Maag) 0 0%
Positive Discipline (J. Nelsen) 8 53.33%
Kid Cooperation (E. Pantley) 3 20.00%
Magical Child (J. Pearce) 1 6.67%
Smart Love (M. & W. Pieper) 0 0%
The Discipline Book (Dr. Sears) 13 86.67%
Raising a Thinking Child: Help Your... (M. Shure) 4 26.67%
The Secret of Parenting: How to be in... (A. Wolf) 8 53.33%
Other: Please tell me about it by posting a reply!!! 40 100.00%
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#1 of 45 Old 05-20-2007, 02:29 AM - Thread Starter
 
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What are your favorite GD books? My DS is approaching his first birthday and I am looking for the best GD books to prepare myself for the new challenges I see coming over the horizon! I am very excited to learn more about GD and not sure where to start.

Vote for your favorites! This poll consists of books listed on the GD Sticky entitled, "Long Awaited GD Book List." I could not include them all, but figured it was a good place to start. Can you help me to narrow down my choices?

If your favorite is not on the poll list, PLEASE mark the "Other" option and elaborate with a reply! I am looking forward to your responses!

A few notes about this poll:
* This poll allows you to select more than one answer
* Books are listed in alphabetical order by author
* Some titles are abbreviated for practical purposes

Thanks so much for your help! I look forward to getting my hands on some good reading material soon!
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Jesper Juul: "Your Competent Child" is really good!
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first to comment on the ones i've read and don't recommend i've read the sears one and it was ok, but not great. magical child didn't appeal to me at all. continuum concept had some really important ideas, but the context it was presented in was a real drawback. i'd say this one is worth borrowing from a library or friend and reading once, but i can't wholeheartedly recommend it. kids are worth it - i liked most of the ideas, but i think i pretty much knew everything she was going to say just from hanging out here and from reading better books.

from the list i most love how to talk...

the one book i love that's not on that list is adventures in gentle discipline by hilary flower. very practical and humane. perfect to read around the time my son turned one. i borrowed it from LLL, but then bought my own copy so i can loan it to friends and reread when i hit roadblocks in parenting.

other books not on the list that i've heard good things about but haven't read:
playful parenting
becoming the parent you want to be

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I voted for How to talk, TCC, and SOP.

I'd also like to add Becoming the Parent You Want To Be. It was a sanity saver when ds was younger!
And I love anything that was written by Jan Hunt!!!
(oh, and I prefer Loving Your Child is Not Enough to How to talk. Very similar ideas, but a better read, imo)

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Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn

Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline by Becky Bailey

Becoming the Parent You Want to Be
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I voted for "How to talk" (my favorite to recommend to others), but I also like "Becoming the Parent You Want to Be" and I'm just now reading and very much enjoying M Kurcinka's "Kids, Parents, and Power Struggles".

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The Explosive Child, by Ross Greene. It gives concrete steps, explaining how to create a more peaceful household. Very GD, very respectful of children. Easy read, too.
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I voted for How to Talk, the Continuum Concept, and Kids are Worth it (the last probably being my favorite of the three).

But my absolute first recommendation is always Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn. Love it. It is so helpful as a starter, because it discusses the reasons (including logic and science) behind the theories. It's a little lacking in practical solutions, but that's what this forum is for. and the UP yahoo group

I'm also waiting to get Playful Parenting by Lawrence Cohen? I think? There's a book by that name at my library but it is definitely NOT the one people talk about on here, as it's filled with all types of suggestions for how to punish kids in "fun" ways. Gah! So make sure you check the author.)

And I also really want to read Naomi Aldort's Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves (another book that has a duplicate title out there. Make sure it's Naomi Aldort. Here's her website: http://naomialdort.com/ I've just been browsing the articles on her site and I am so inspired by her respect for children.

Good luck!
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I also liked Playful Parenting a lot. Another one of my favorites is The Science of Parenting by Margot Sunderland. It's not exclusively focused on discipline, but it is very AP and GD in its focus and it really helped give me a focus for my overall approach to parenting. Plus it's a beautiful book with gorgeous pictures, so it's a pleasure to read.

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I voted for KAWI but I also chose other because Unconditional Parenting is probably my MOST favourite.

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I didn't see this book up there but I like "Children Learn What They Live" by Dorothy Law Nolte. It's a short book, not focused entirely on discipline but it's very respectful of children.

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My absolute most favorite parenting book (and I have read a lot!) is How to Talk.
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Also, I like Playful Parenting, but it wasn't on the list.
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Another vote for Playful Parenting. It's one of the 2 or 3 parenting books that I OWN (the others I get from the library).

I also like Kids, Parents & Power Struggles by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka - I think it's a better, more up to date version of "The Spirited Child". Maybe I just liked it because it talked more about the parents. (Turns out I'm the only spirited one in the family, everyone else is just spunky!)

I'm just reading "Becoming the Parent you Want to Be" so we'll see if that ever makes my top list.

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I really love "Playful Parenting" and "Adventures in Gentle Discipline." I need to buy "How to Talk..." again as DS1 threw it in the toilet about a day after it arrived from Amazon.

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I'm reading "Parent and Child" by Haim Ginott. The original GD book I love it.

How to talk..., and kids are worth it are big favs too. Super dog-eared

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Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn

Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline by Becky Bailey

Becoming the Parent You Want to Be
Those would be mine. I haven't read a lot of the ones on the poll.
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But my absolute first recommendation is always Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn. Love it. It is so helpful as a starter, because it discusses the reasons (including logic and science) behind the theories. It's a little lacking in practical solutions, but that's what this forum is for. and the UP yahoo group
Ditto that! UP is my favorite. I also love Playful Parenting and
Becoming the Parent You Want to Be. I voted for How to Talk and "other". I also love the Siblings without Rivalry book (same authors as How to Talk).
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Unconditional Parenting
Hold on to Your kids
The Aware Baby
The Last Child in the Woods

def. How to talk and Continuum Concept are awesome.
I also love Laurie Bouke's Infant Potty training

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I'll add Connection Parenting by Pam Leo. It's a wonderful book!
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Thanks for all of your votes and feedback.... keep 'em coming if you have more to say! I am diligently taking notes and getting ready for a trip to the library!

Many of your "other" suggestions are listed on the sticky already. When creating the poll, I had to leave quite a few out (I think there were about 30 or so in total, and the poll only allows for 15). So, I arbitrarily picked them and see that I left out some of your favs!

Again, thanks for the advice! Happy reading!!!
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my "other" votes are for:

Kids, Parents, and Power Struggles by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka (don't think it's a great title since it's mainly about learning to recognize different temperaments in your family and how to respond to every one's needs and avoid triggering power struggles. it's the one parenting book that i've read that truly is NOT a one-size fits all approach.)

Playful Parenting by Lawrence Cohen (lots of good practical tips)

Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn (not many practical tips, but a great underlying philosophy)

hth, fun poll!

maybe you could make a second one with the titles you left out.

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another vote for "Unconditional Parenting" by Alfie Kohn

"Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves" by Naomi Aldort

those are my two favorites. I also like Kucinka's books, and the "Playful Parenting" one.
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The only one on the list I voted for was "How to Talk...". Fabulous book. I read it when DS1 was a little under 1 y/o and even though he was too young to put most of the actual suggestions into practice, it laid the foundation for our parenting, totally changed my point of view on children, and made me understand GD.

I prefer books that ask a parent to reconsider their view of the world and of their children, rather than books that give concrete suggestions for specific situations. I feel like the specifics can flow from having a different POV. To that end, two of my favorites are:

Unconditional Parenting (Kohn)

Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves (Aldort)

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My two faves are Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline (even though it does read a bit like a 12 step program, IMO, it's an excellent book).

and of course...

Unconditional Parenting

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I'm reading "Parent and Child" by Haim Ginott. The original GD book I love it.

How to talk..., and kids are worth it are big favs too. Super dog-eared
Oh yeah, Haim Ginott is the best. I think the full title is actually "Between Parent and Child."

I love his work because it balances the needs and feelings of the parent with the needs and feelings of the child. Some of the other GD books I've read give the impression that it doesn't matter how unhappy or burdened the parent is, as long as the child's free spirit isn't even the teensiest bit blighted.

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I just started out reading myself into the GD literature and the first book I read was

"Your competent child"

I want to give another strong vote for this book. It changed my life and really made me go back into my childhood and work out some things.... I love the way he (Jesper Juul) puts forth ideas without needing to map out a "parenting approach/method". I also think about his concept of "self esteem vs. self confidence" and how self confidence can't replace self esteem all the time. I find it everywhere now. Well, I think it's an awesome book!

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Becky Bailey's book "Easy to Love Difficult to Discipline"
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