Originally Posted by soybeansmama
This is the part that I didn't mention...They think that she is bipolar and needs meds and that they are keeping her from harming herself if they physically contain her. When I have spoken to her mom privately, she has shared that she doesn't know what else to do because she won't go to counseling, etc. It's confusing to me because her mom actually works with troubled teens at a continuation high school.
: It's the dad that acts violent. I have seen the mom stand in the middle of the 2 of them. I am due in 4 weeks and I am not comfortable creating problems for myself, that is why I WILL call the police next time. I let them know that after this last episode...
The risk (to the girl) involved in waiting for there to be a next time
is profound. Their handling of an out-of-control-possibly-chemically-imbalanced teenagaer crossed the line a long time ago. You don't have any garaentee that next time
won't have escalated. This family needs intervention, immediately.
Originally Posted by kmisje
I personally would call someone, cps, cops, whoever that deals with child abuse. To me THAT is child abuse, and I, in no way, will witness something like that and NOT do something.
One person can make a difference in this child's life, you can safe this child for whats next.
Our neighbors' girls (16 & 17) are nuts. They have trashy boys around all the time, and sneak out, smoke under my daughter's window and are just totally unruly. I remember wanting freedoms and privaledges my folks didn't deem me worthy of at 16-17. I snuck out, experimented, etc... and was generally dissatisfied with the manner in which I was parented. Not uncommon. My dad pop-riveted the screen onto the sill of my window, and put in a bolt to keep the window from opening more that just enough for me to squeeeeeze
out with some difficulty in the event of an emergency. He threatened to put a dead-bolt on my door from the outside...
There are other ways for her
to deal with her fear or anger than to go running off into the night to be abducted, raped, murdered, drugged, whatever. And there are other ways for them
to handle their child.
It helps to have someone to talk to. If you're comfortable doing so, approach the girl asap, and avail yourself to her... "I know things are crazy and you're very unhappy. Please know you have an ally and a confidante. You can come over or call whenever you need to to talk, or if you need shelter." Let her mom know you are doing this. It might help mom
to know she
has this back-up, in a way. Ask
the daughter if she wants
CPS involved. Maybe she would value the intervention, she might thrive in a foster home... my foster brother-in-law did. My 2 brothers-in-law spent time as the foster kids of the family that adopted them (dh's) and flourished. Not ALL
foster-situations are bad. If you're up to it to go this far, or far enough to provide her shelter... maybe YOU
guys ought to foster her for a week or so... she'd see mom and dad, be right across the street from 'em, and shoot, maybe she would be helpful around the house as you prep for baby. Mom and dad could sign over temporary guardianship of her so that all is legal, or whatev. My close friend had to do this with her child while she got herself clean and on medication so that she could be the super parent she is now.