|View Poll Results: Do you let your dc crawl "up" the slide?|
|Yes,slides are f/playing on & children should take turns whether going "up" or "down".||59||14.46%|
|Yes, as long as they are not keeping others from using the slide and are safe.||292||71.57%|
|No, absolutely not. Slides are for going "down", not "up".||48||11.76%|
|other...because there's always a "other" choice.||9||2.21%|
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I've never thought not to let them climb the slide....though I do teach them to respect the others around them, if someone else wants to slide down, well, just find something else to climb...
We try not to frequent the playgrounds during the busy times (unless we're in another country and I want my kids to meet and play with some local children) but here at home, I'm just not great with the 'playground ettiquette, nor is DH, so we'll take them at dusk, or when it's raining. So usually it's just us and a handful of older kids, and they all climb the slide...
Here's my 2cents:
up & down: babies/kids of all ages will naturally try to climb up a slide, the natural rule being that gravity has the right of way. When DS was too young to understand that another kid was coming down, he was too young to be on the slide by himself, I was appropri-hovering to take him off & tell him why.
Misc slide usage: If kids are obviously in line to go down the slide, then somebody going up is cutting line. If big kids are using the tube slide as a club house, they need to be nice to the baby & let the baby get thru.
bigkid/little kid: If big(ger) kids are being reckless with little kids, I don't ignore or retreat, but always ask them to watch out & take care with the little ones. Sometimes they look at me like it's a brand new concept, but it makes them think. Now that my DS is a bigger kid, it's his turn to take care & I watch him closely when toddlers abound. Again, the appropri-hover.
Talking with other moms/on cell phone on the playground: well hell yeah. I'm not there to climb the slide.
His mother starts saying...over and over, "oh no adam, that's right. She's not being safe. We don't climb up the slides at school. That is a no no. She shouldn't be doing that should she. She isn't being safe is she?"
DD is 2.5 now and has gotten pretty good about taking turns and only climbing up unoccupied slides (the playground here has like 6 slides, so there's always one that's not in use)
Frankly I'm more afraid of stairs than slides. I ripped every tendon in my right ankle (save for my Achilles' tendon, fortunately) by falling off those tiny flights of stairs on playground structures. Actually, I think I fear mostly for MYSELF while at the park or play places than DD. She's resilient and agile and has never been more than scratched or bumped. I, on the other hand, am prone to severe injury, lol.
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That said, I thought of this thread today at the playground when the above referenced DC was playing on the relatively empty play structure. He was just working up the courage to go down, sat down and looked over to me. I smiled to encourage him and just at that moment 5 older kids (6-8) years come running up and start climbing up the slide. DC hightailed it out of there and didn't go near the slide again. Of course the parents come strolling up chatting over their Starbucks and completely oblivious as their kids proceed to run roughshod over the three LOs already there. :
Don't know where that puts me. I really don't have a problem with going up the slide in general, but it does seem that the rules that need to go along with that (no climbing up when someone is coming down, waiting for turns, understanding that younger kids sometimes need more space, etc.) are subtle and not easily internalized by kids who are of the age to use a slide. I have seen many kids patiently waiting at the top of a slide for their turn while other kids climb up and down over and over. I think it's the parents, not the rule, that is the problem, though.
I am constantly seeing parents snagging their kids off the middle of the slide, on the way up , saying, "we do not climb up the slide". There isn't usually anyone else playing on the slide, so maybe it is for my "hearing range" benefit? I don't know, just wondering.
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In general no. Slides are not designed in general to be climbed lots of injuries happen I see it all the time. So we have a slide down use stairs. Now depending on the sitaution if were at a priviate slide a place where shes alone and now that shes older and can clearly see the diffrence between being alone and with others I'm a bit more relaxed and places where one HAS to climb the slide to et to diffrent levels then of course thats diffrent.
Ha! I see/hear that a lot around here too. I don't get it. I've never had a problem with DD climbing up the slide if she wants to. Obviously before she was old enough to safely do it, I helped her if she REALLY showed interest in doing it that way. I don't see the big deal either. Some parents over-parent.
We don't slide head first on slides due to head injury concerns but really, that is the only "rule."
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It was because I got dirty looks from a mama who saw my child walking up the slide, and she said very loudly so I'd be sure to get the point, to her daughter " Slides are for going down, NOT up." There were two slides next to each other, and so my daughter wasn't blocking this other girl from using a slide or anything.
I was thinking WTF? - but I ignored her. I let my child play almost any way she wants to at the park unless she is in immediate danger or is preventing other kids from playing. And that means climbing on things, and up things, and using the equipment any dang well she pleases (within reason).
Also, I just hate having to force so many rules on a small child. They're going to be restricted in so many ways when they are grown up - why not let childhood play be free and unencumbered if at all possible??
There have been numerous times that I have had to go up to another child to say, "Excuse me, may my daughter take a turn going down the slide?" This is why I do not let my child go up the slide.
I forsee a time when your dd will be more verbal, and, thanks to your example, she'll know she has more options than looking sad and twirling her hair, when confronted with frustrating circumstances.
There's a reason children have parents, and I think the above example is one of them. My 2 1/2 yo also needs active parenting at the park -- but I don't see it as tragic, I see it as an investment in her future.
And yes, I let my children go up the slide, while helping them to stay safe and to consider the feelings and safety of others.
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