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Already!?!?! ~ Lori, doula, childbirth educator, wife to Jermaine 6/04, and mom to two happy and energetic boys - Tatum 6/06 and Keegan 3/09
have him watch alfie kohn's unconditional parenting dvd.
and not to excuse his rudeness towards children now, i hope that things will change for him once he is holding his own precious little one.
also, i hope he knows that those shows like supernanny are SO extremely edited so that we see the absolutely WORST behaviors of the kids and then their BEST behaviors once the nanny intervenes. it really is an unfair depiction of the kids. in light of this, as well as your husband's response to the shows, my other suggestion would be to STOP watching those shows. they are all about conditional/punitive/authoritarian discipline and if you are on the gentle discipline path, watching will only serve to infuriate you.
Well, we were in the same boat before ds was born. Once we fell into an attachment parenting lifestyle with baby actually HERE, not in my belly, he just sort of morphed into this advocate of gentle discipline - sometimes, now with ds at 15 mos, he is better at it than me! I think that supernanny show makes us all want to say what your dh said. I think it in my head sometimes even though I know its not their fault for behaving the way they do.
I think he'll come around with your "gentle" explanations and encouraging and once he sees how well things work out in the beginning when both of you respond lovingly to your baby's needs...it will all start to make sense to him.
yeah, my partner thinks that some of my ideas were/are 'kooky' too. but he comes around in due time.
the unconditional parenting dvd was a real eye opener to him, because kohn is so good at explaining, and his statements are all research based. there is also a book of the same name which is excellent but a bit hard to get through (but you were a psych major so it'll be cake for you, i'm a former psych major and also used to work in a preschool so we have similar backgrounds in regards to that. )
i just checked and both the book and dvd are available through amazon.com.
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