Ds1 (almost 3) has thus far been back and forth on his pottying. We've expected it lately (he recently started Montessori and is expecting a little sister soon--big changes), and we've been pretty gentle about it. We'll suggest that he go when it seems like he's feeling the urge, but we don't push it, and we're basically just waiting for him to decide to start on his own again. For the time being, he's in training pants. He usually has a poop during his afternoon nap, not sure if he's awake or asleep when he has it. For the past couple of weeks, upon awaking, he's been taking off his training pants, and smearing the poop into the floor (except for this afternoon, when he took the poop out and put in ds2's crib--they share a room).
I admit we haven't dealt very well with it. We're not really sure what to do. I suspect that the poopy training pants are uncomfortable for him, and he takes them off with the intention of cleaning himself up...and then, being 3, can't help himself and starts the fingerpainting. The last time he smeared it into the carpet, I was so tired and frustrated that I burst into tears as I was wiping it up, which seemed to alarm him, as he ran for dh and told him "Mommy's sad!" Then today, I couldn't hold back and started
: as I overheard dh calmly and seriously explaining to ds1 over ds2's screams that "Ds2 is upset because you put poop in his bed". So I don't know if any message is effectively getting through to ds1.
We're kind of at a loss here. Any ideas?