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#121 of 125 Old 11-15-2007, 06:27 PM
 
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ITA. I am totally with you on this issue (and apparently on a few others). And I am very AP, and I consider myself GD also (although I do say no and everything is not a consensus based decision). I am a loving, respectful parent, and I also do not coddle my child or walk on eggshells lest I destroy her fragile psyche.

If you wanna say no, dude! Say no. They will live on and they will also have far more important things to talk about in therapy than 'my mother said no instead of finding creative sing song alternatives whenever I screwed up.'

eta - I also wonder about the real lives of folks who can be so rude to other mamas on the subject of how important it is to be nice to children.
I agree with you completely.

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I also wonder about the real lives of folks who can be so rude to other mamas on the subject of how important it is to be nice to children.
IMO, the "GD" mamas on this thread have been nothing but respectful in the face of bashing, dismissal, and the implication that their children could not POSSIBLY be well-behaved because they try to be kind, respectful, and postivie.
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Most likely applauding the part I quoted, hmmm?
It appeared to me that you quoted the whole original post, which posed a question to people who avoid the word no. So I didn't understand what you were applauding. It appears by your response that you are simply trying to start a fight.

I have no interest in fighting, so I will leave you to your posting.
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From the article "Yes Days" on Jan Hunt's Natural Child Project website:

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We find ourselves running into power struggles and negative interactions in order to get to the places we feel we should be. Professor Charles Smith of Kansas State University says, "Although saying 'no' tells children what not to do, only by being affirmative do we actually teach them the skills that will be important to them throughout their lives."
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Saying yes and affirming our children as human beings is a gift to everyone involved. So go ahead, say yes to your kids. As we learn to say yes to each other and to the ebb and flow of the world, yes days are in fact training for us to live yes lives. And perhaps our yes lives will inspire our children to create a yes world.
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