I'm having such a difficult time with disiplining my 3.5 yo. He has so much energy and is so intelligent, I know I'm going about it the wrong way. I yell alot to get his attention, because I know of no other way that works. It's making me crazy and I do not want to ruin my child. I know that what I do and say will make him who he is and I need to get a grip. I just don't know how. He and his very high spirited 20mo brother are alway at each other and I'm at my witz end, desparate, don't know what to do. I feel helpless and like a terrible mother because I can not keep peace in my household.
I really need advice here. I am involved in a preschool coop, and I notice the other mothers also not knowing what to do with him, and sometimes they do what I do and raise there voice (not yell) at him, sometimes 2 adults at a time, repeat his name over and over, and become visibly irritated with him (though i can tell they are not trying to let it show). He's the kid that if you hear a scream come from the next room, you automatically assume he did something to someone (uggggggg, how aweful is that???)
Like I said I don't want to ruin him, and I am not venting about the other Moms.......I was seeing myself in them. I want to ask them to stop, but I don't know how to direct them differently.......and looking from the outside in, I wanted to defend him.
He is not a bad child; his traits that are strong in him are amazing, I just don't know how to direct them positively.
I'm a mess......any help is grateful! I know I can count on you all!
Thanks in advance!