I don't usually like to talk about other people's parenting. And, I try to gd as much as possible. I believe in live and let live for the most part...
But something always rubs me raw when I hear parents talking about how they potty learned their toddlers in un-gentle ways. Regardless of where one stands with gd, potty learning should be taught with gentleness, respect, dignity, and understanding of the child's mentality, and patience in my opinion.
It's common, and usually spoken of with pride to me that when somebody explains how they "got their kid to learn" buy "whooping them once", or "putting ice down in their underwear every time he wet".
It really bums me out. And this happens to me often. Today, I walked into a drug store right into a circle of people talking about how they pottied their kids because one lady had her little boy with her 3, almost 4, and he still hasn't quite got it yet. One cashier bragged how she only had to spank her own kid "once" but he got it.
I, being an a foul mood today anyhow, piped in that I have a 2.5 year old, and I only let him go naked, and he's just about got it. I don't have to spank him over it, he wants to be naked anyway, doesn't like to be wet, and got the naked thing down in one day.
(And the lady who spanked subsequently starts to defend herself, while I purchase my eyeglass repair kit and hastily leave out. I didn't really want to give the impression that I agreed with what she was saying.)
It's really starting to bum me out. I mean, I heard it once or twice and didn't think much of it, but I hear it ALL the time, now, as a normal practice. It also bums me out how they shamed the little 3/4 year old in there. My kid is too young to care, but I think that child was old enough to not want random cashiers in the store to know about his potty habits, you know?
Sorry, I just needed to get this out, it's been eating me up for a very long time now, and it builds up each time I have to hear about it...
I'm more than likely to hear about it again at some point, seeing as how my kid is around that age, and I"m reluctantly realizing that it's a common practice around here in this completely backwards, mostly uneducated small town where I'm forced to live for the time being...It'd be nice to have a few comments up my sleeve to say to people to let them know I highly disagree with potty-teaching in a non-gentle way. Any suggestions, or ways of avoiding the topic, would be great.
But something always rubs me raw when I hear parents talking about how they potty learned their toddlers in un-gentle ways. Regardless of where one stands with gd, potty learning should be taught with gentleness, respect, dignity, and understanding of the child's mentality, and patience in my opinion.
It's common, and usually spoken of with pride to me that when somebody explains how they "got their kid to learn" buy "whooping them once", or "putting ice down in their underwear every time he wet".
It really bums me out. And this happens to me often. Today, I walked into a drug store right into a circle of people talking about how they pottied their kids because one lady had her little boy with her 3, almost 4, and he still hasn't quite got it yet. One cashier bragged how she only had to spank her own kid "once" but he got it.
I, being an a foul mood today anyhow, piped in that I have a 2.5 year old, and I only let him go naked, and he's just about got it. I don't have to spank him over it, he wants to be naked anyway, doesn't like to be wet, and got the naked thing down in one day.
(And the lady who spanked subsequently starts to defend herself, while I purchase my eyeglass repair kit and hastily leave out. I didn't really want to give the impression that I agreed with what she was saying.)
It's really starting to bum me out. I mean, I heard it once or twice and didn't think much of it, but I hear it ALL the time, now, as a normal practice. It also bums me out how they shamed the little 3/4 year old in there. My kid is too young to care, but I think that child was old enough to not want random cashiers in the store to know about his potty habits, you know?
Sorry, I just needed to get this out, it's been eating me up for a very long time now, and it builds up each time I have to hear about it...
I'm more than likely to hear about it again at some point, seeing as how my kid is around that age, and I"m reluctantly realizing that it's a common practice around here in this completely backwards, mostly uneducated small town where I'm forced to live for the time being...It'd be nice to have a few comments up my sleeve to say to people to let them know I highly disagree with potty-teaching in a non-gentle way. Any suggestions, or ways of avoiding the topic, would be great.