DD is 34 months and while there have been small bouts of tuning us out before, it is now reappearing with 'defiance' ~ I'd love some ideas on working together on this ~ we do UP and are open to consensual ideas, too.
~We give lots of warning/ transition time when possible.
~get down to her level when she ignores us, make eye contact and repeat.
~she is in a running away as soon as we speak mode, though!
~sometimes we just walk away, let it be and then come back after a few minutes.
~when it is a danger issue she gets picked up and moved (ie running back to a high embankment over stream last night~ I carried her away and then set her down to repeat the reason she can't be there, held her hand and walked away)~ but it is force!
~consequences~ she ran down a hill towards a wet boggy spot (safe enough, though)~ was asked to stop, she would get wet. She ran on, got wet, cried, Grandma rescued her, we said no more about it, went home and hosed her down (which she was fine with, I don't mean a mean hosing LOL)
But it pushes our buttons when she does this. And I'd love so more tools along with consistency, to help us out!