Absolutely, Raising your Spirited Child, as well as the accompanying workbook. My son is also emotionally sensitive (if I cry, he doesn't recover for days) and it's great.
The Explosive Child is great, even for kids you wouldn't consider explosive. It's a little old for your son now, but keep it in mind.
Playful Parenting is fab.
I personally don't love Dr. Sears, especially for discipline stuff. My favorite book of all time is Unconditional Parenting, but it doesn't have a lot of practical advice. More practical is How to Talk so Kinds Will Listen... but I didn't find it helpful for toddlers (lots of people do though).
Originally Posted by Avarie
He doesn't want me to hold him, he doesn't want me to leave him, he doesn't want to lay on his bed or in the crib to calm down ... what does that leave me with??
I don't know if that was rhetoric, but I'll answer anyway. I will tell my son I'm here when he's ready and do something else while he's tantruming, if he doesn't want me to touch him. I'll do a chore right where he is (even if nothing needs to be done - I can dust a windowsill with a tissue for a really long time) and give him a chance to settle himself and be ready to either move on or be comforted. And yes, those tantrums when he's crossed some line inside himself and I can't help him come back? They last for a long time. But they last longer the more I try to help.
Now, in terms of giving him the choice of dancing on the floor versus sitting on the couch, that kind of the thing never worked for my son. He would just get sillier and sillier about it. If he's jumping on the couch and doesn't get down when I tell him to jump on the floor or on his bed instead, I'll scoop him up and we'll do something silly together. Especially closer to age 2, distraction and redirection worked WAY better than any sort of logic for us. Now that he's over three, choices like that are starting to mean something to him, but redirection and distraction are still our best bets.
Back to the topic: If it were me, I'd get Playful Parenting and Raising your Spirited Child first.