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I don't want to yell at my daughter anymore. I never wanted to in the first place. She just turned 3 and she is an amazing little girl. She's so sensitive and kind hearted. It makes me so sad that I have yelled at her. In her mind if I raise my voice to get her attention I am screaming at her.
I realize that it's not effective anyway.
It makes me feel like crap afterwards.
Like I said she is so sensitive, she has never been hit, and she has for the most part always been spoken to with a lot of respect so she takes me raising my voice so hard. She makes me apologize to her--which I love. She's so confident and will say to me, "Mommy don't talk to me with that voice."
Lately I've been feeling overwhelmed and tapped out. My son is 16 months and teething, he nurses constantly and I am pregnant. I don't ever want to see yelling as OK, for instance, I don't want to use it as an alternative to hitting, I think that yelling is (especially to super sensitive kids) a form of violence.
What do you do when you find yourself yelling, how do you stop yourself? How can I stop before I get to that point? Tell me what works, I want to change.