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#1 of 26 Old 11-13-2003, 09:39 AM - Thread Starter
 
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do you mind sharing your fav book with me? i'm looking for positive discipline and also understanding children through different stages in their life.

thanks! i just started looking at this board and wish i did earlier! you guys are great!
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The Discipline Book by Dr Sears

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13yo ds   10yo dd  8yo ds and 6yo ds and 1yo ds  
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The Blessing of a Skinned Knee by Wendy Mogel.
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**The Continuum Concept by Jean Liedloff** - truly the ONLY parenting book you need!

Also, I really liked:

**Spiritual Parenting by Gayle & Hugh Prather**
and **Magical Child by Joseph Chilton Pearce**


and I'm currently reading (VERY GOOD!) **Your Competent Child** by Jesper Juul (out of print, but avail. on Amazon.)

All of these books are guaranteed to totally challenge your beliefs about parenting and children, in the most amazing way.

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So far, the one book I tend to return to over and over is Raising Your Spirited Toddler. Also, the Sears Discipline book is good.

I will have to check out the other suggestions, too.
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Whew! I don't have to narrow it down to one!

The following three books have helped me embrace and articulate GD and my overall parenting philosophy:

KIDS ARE WORTH IT! Giving your kids the gift of inner discipline Barbara Coloroso

KIDS, PARENTS, and POWER STRUGGLES Mary Sheedy Kurcinka

HOW TO TALK TO KIDS WILL LISTEN and LISTEN SO KIDS WILL TALK um, can't remember authors... darn...

All excellent. In particular, the most recently read (the latter mentioned above), has helped me with "the words to say" when trying to get my philosophy across.

Best of luck!

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Ooh! I agree. . . I just read that one, too:

(How to Talk so your Kids will Listen and Listen so your Kids will Talk)

It's by Faber and Mazlich, btw.

It's definitely a book you could keep on your shelf as a reference, in case of sticky situations. Also, it works great as a tool for dealing with spouses, friends, and relatives.

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Misfitmama, Indeed, I also keep it on the shelf close by! I sure would love to say that I memorized it all and can put it to use whenever needed. Alas, I dip into the den a few times a week anymore and sneak a peak before dealing with some random toddler issue of the day!

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Kids are Worth it by Coloroso

Your Child's Self Esteem by Briggs

These two books formed my parenting philosophy.
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Raising kids Who Think For Themselves
WOW -what an eyeopener for me -
Lists those things kids do & what to do to teach them to think for themselves!

Defiant child is what I am working on right now with my 4 year old Aries child!

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I loved Kids are Worth It! Great book!

My current fav is Becoming the Parent you Want to Be...the author is slipping my mind right now, but it really helps!
My oldest is spirited and ot really helped me to direct her energies the right way...instead of stifling them to "conform" to my wishes.
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Whole Child, Whole Parent - Polly Berends. It's not a cookbook and is weird in spots, but overall it's my best help in stepping back & getting a big picture of what's going on
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playfl Parenting by Lawrence Cohen- wonderful, wonderful book that is improving relations between me and my 2 yr old!
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The Discipline Book by Dr. William Sears and How to talk so kids will listen & listen so kids will talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish This includes good practical advice and examples of situatuons
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Children: The Challenge
by Rudolph Dreikurs
1964

ALthough it is written forty years ago, I found it extremely helpful. It is nothing like Dr.Spock, of the same era. Before I read this I had considered Dr. Sears discipline book the most helpful, but this book actually left me with a new way of seeing and being with my daughter, and I am always reviewing it.
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Gotta second Playful Parenting. What an awesome read.
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Bought 2 new ones today,
FROM DEFIANCE TO COOPERATION by john f taylor
DISCIPLINE WITHOUT SHOUTING OR SPANKING by jerry wyckoff
RAISING CHILDREN WHO THINK FOR THEMSELVES is the correct title -by Elisa Medhus


I almost bought PET -Parent Effectiveness Training-looked through it at the bookstore for the info I needed.


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How To Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will Talk

And if you have a "spirited" one who makes you pull your hair out I highly recommend The Explosive Child.
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That is so sad!!!
Giving The Love That Heals By Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt (not the actress) is amazing!
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I really like The Secret of Parenting by Andrew Wolf.

"We shape the clay into a pot but it is the emptiness inside that holds whatever we want" Lao Tzu
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KIDS ARE WORTH IT by Barbara Coloroso is awesome, as are most of the others. Thanks for setting the record straight on the Pearls.
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Becoming The Parent You Want To Be by Laura Davis and Janice Keyser. Very AP, very culturally sensitive, just awesome. And not well known.

That stuff about the Pearls made me ill.
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Lets keep this simple & on topic

RAISING CHILDREN WHO THINK FOR THEMSELVES
FROM DEFIANCE TO COOPERATION
A PARENTS TOOLBOX FOR SPIRITUAL GROWTH
DISCIPLINE WITHOUT SHOUTING OR SPANKING(geared for preschoolers)
PEACEFUL PARENTING IN A VIOLENT WORLD
THE PATH OF PARENTING
SPIRITUAL PARENTING


All of these have concrete ideas /suggestions that are appropriate for all ages -& help parents understand what the kids might be going through-stage wise /developmentally.

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Edited because now that the old and new threads are combined I repeated myself!
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Some of you may need to take out an odd sentence or two that doesn't make sense now! Thanks for your cooperation and patience. I will merge this with the new thread

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I would like to second who ever said "Magical Child." That book changed the way I viewed parenting immensely.
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