Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: South Amboy, NJ, USA
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I am not sure what to do... I feel like I do not want to interact with my son.
It came to me yesterday, in the middle of the worse day in a while, that maybe the reason I am having so much trouble with my son is that he does not understand me, or anyone. As in you talk to him, and he just does not understand what it is you are telling him... the more I interact the more upset I get, and when I leave him to himself I end up with a house that should be condemned. I mean really, he pays NO mind when I am talking to him, will look right past me, or worse. When I try to touch his chin, arm, back, or ext. the whole things go right to flames.
Am I pushing my soon to be 3yo too much, or is there something off... how would one go about telling??
Is it me, I know I did not have the best "family life" growing up, am I putting this on to him?
How do I keep myself "in line" when dealing with him, and not fly off the handles... when he’s, looking at me and telling me something that has nothing to do with what I am talking about so that he might be able to get back to whatever mis-mosh he was making me want to pull my hair out over (as in, "nice sisy" when I am talking to him about hitting me in the head with a toy), or saying "OKAY! Okay? OKAY?!?!?!" Thinking that this is all one has to say or do to undo what it is he had done. Or moving his mouth as if he is yelling with no sound coming out so that he dose not have to deal with what I am talking to him about... not to even think about the non-purposeful touching of everything, or the leaning pushing into me and others. The not wanting to do anything I ask, rather running off doing something else, and hitting, slapping biting, crying when I bring him back to the task at hand (as in cleaning something up, getting dressed, leaving the house, ext.).
I have I have to deal with him one on one, and this moment that is not happening very much because I cannot take it... (I know this sounds sad but how much time each day do you think I might try to make a min. as a starting point of time that I work with him one on one with TV or phone or what have you?)
Please help... I wish not to cry myself to sleep another night.