Yesterday I ran into a friend of mine I've known since high school. She has one child, who is 6 years old. She's been trying for a second practically since the first child was born. She appeared to be very upset, so I sat down and listened to her. She was due exactly 2 weeks before me, and just miscarried a couple weeks ago. I encouraged her to refer to the baby by the name she had picked out. I supported her as she grieved.
She doesn't know I'm pregnant yet. She was telling me how hard it is for her to see pregnant women, and how it will be even rougher on her when she sees women due around the same time she was due. I can't keep this a secret from her forever. She'll eventually know. How do I tell her? Do I tell her? Do I avoid seeing her when I'm showing? We're not buddy buddy friends anymore. In fact, I hadn't seen her since January. She wants me to call her, though. She needs the support. Y'know, somebody who's not going to tell her "It wasn't meant to be." or "There was probably something wrong with the baby" or other crap like that.
I don't know. I'm emotional about all of this, as I'm sure she will be as well.