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#1 of 7 Old 11-16-2006, 08:46 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I have been so tense and on the verge of tears for most of the pregnancy. I know that some of it is hormonal (I can pinpoint the start of AF by my irritability during PMS) and I know that some of it is hormonal, but OMG- it's really starting to get to me and makes me wonder. I've heard of post-partum depression obviously, but this feels like it might go beyond "just" hormones of pregnancy. Can you get "partum-depression?" I had high bp with my first and I was working full time (8th grade math teacher) and honestly, I feel more stressed out with this one. In this third trimester I feel like if I don't get my emotions under control, I'm going to end up in the same boat and the hbp really affected my labor/birth.

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I hear you! Boy, do I hear you!! And with a toddler at home, it's just SO rough keeping everything on an even keel. Better sleep and fewer stressors (like having your DH pick up stuff) might keep you in a better place.

How is your support system? Do you ever get the chance to just get away (physically as well as mentally) from some of the more intense stuff in your life and relax?

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I hear you, nothing worse than hormonally-induced emotional swings! My midwives suggested I take evening primrose oil to try and balance my hormones (to help with the pg-caused eczema I have) and although it didn't seem to help the eczema, it does wonders to help even out my emotions. I don't have anywhere near the mood swings I did the first time. They also recommend taking a GLA/EFA supplement to help with the emotions.

Like the PP said, take care of yourself too - exercise, eat well, give yourself some pampering. Also, remember that pregnancy is huge transition time in your life and is a time for clearing out some junk from your emotional baggage. Do you ever just let yourself have a good cry? Scream and kick and sob? If you're constantly fighting it and never let go with the tears, it could be backing up on you and be making it all worse than it has to be

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I agree that if you can get some chores/responsibilities off your plate, the better for you.
But if you can't....
Here are some things that have helped me:

1) Warm bath to myself just 5-10 minutes if possible...I add lemon oil for aromatherapy which is invigorating.
2) Bach's Rescue Remedy for stress
3) A walk by yourself...even if it's just 5-10 minutes.

I have had some really powerful emotions of fear and sadness in this pregnancy...and it can feel like massive waves going over the head.

Love to you...
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Hey, I wanted to tell you that there *is* pre-partum depression. I had it with my first DS. This pregnancy definitely has its emotional ups and downs for me, but it is nowhere near how bad it was last time.

I agree with other posters that it is really important to nurture yourself. For me, the biggest difference b/t this pregnancy and last is that I have a counselor I see twice a month and I am less nauseous than I was with my son (although I am still very nauseous, which makes things hard).

I have used a variety of homeopathic rememdies for depression that is related to hormone shifts. The most well-known for PMS-type stuff is sepia. Sepia is especially indicated if you sometimes feel apathy or indifferent to loved ones, and most especially your DH.

I am thinking of you. It's not easy.

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Wow...Sepia.
The indifferent feelings toward dh have definitely been present in pregnancy from time to time...
I'm going to try it.
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I don't really have anything to add beyond what the pp's have said, but just wanted to send you a .

I took a self-prescribed "cocktail" of oil of evening primrose, valerian and st. john's wort for a couple of years before pregnancy to deal with mood swings and depression, and it worked very well. I stopped taking it when I found out I was pregnant because my doctor said there may be contraindications between herbal remedies and pregnancy, so definitely look into it before taking anything new.

Good luck to you!!!
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