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#1 of 8 Old 02-02-2007, 08:21 AM - Thread Starter
 
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I am really battling "baby blues" this time. I don't think it's particularly bad like true depression, but I am still having lots of teary moments. I guess it's probably normal since dd2 is not quite 2 weeks yet, but it still sucks! My mom leaves tomorrow, which is just going to be hard for all of us since she has taken such good care of us. dd1 has an awful cold that is just making this transition time with a new sibling so much more difficult- plus she's waking up at night hysterical because her nose is running. I've gotten a couple of herbs recomended in the book "After the Baby's Birth," but it's hard to know how much they are helping.

Just needing to vent a little, I suppose. I remember feeling like this with dd1 as well and it did pass. I figured things out as I needed to. I'm trying to take things one day- or even moment- at time, but sometimes it comes too fast
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Wendy, I know *exactly* how you are feeling. My DS2 was will be two weeks on this coming Monday, and I cry every day. Dealing with 3.5 yo DS1 has been so hard, and we are all battling our grouchy sides every day.

I think that what helps the most is visits from friends and connecting with others (even like this, on the internet!). It has been hard for us b/c it is so cold here! My best friend here (and neighbor) can't come over b/c *she* just had a baby on the 24th. So, she is just down the street, but neither of us can visit yet!

It's also just hard being home so much. I vacillate b/t being grateful for the time to rest to being super restless and ready for activities, plus I am way too scared to take baby Peter out of the house, especially in the car!!

I am going to reach out to more friends today for comfort. Normally, I am extremely private, never revealing true feelings. I think it is time for me to be more open.

I am here for you, and I know the other moms here are, too, so let's just keeping talking.

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I'm sorry you're having a hard time right now. Baby blues are so hard. There's just something about the timbre of the emotions that makes you feel crazy and out of control of your Self, in a way that you don't get with other down moments in your life.

Those last few days of the second week were really rough for me this time, worse than the earlier days postpartum. Once I hit 2 weeks it seemed to improve quickly. I hope it does for you, too.

be gentle with yourself, mama.

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I'm just starting to feel more hopeful and better. It has been almost 5 weeks.
You are not alone and it does get better.

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I'm sorry you've been feeling this way. I've been having a hard time, too. It just started getting better yesterday (at 3 weeks). Lots of love to you!!!
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It's hard mama... I'm right there with you. The baby blues have been much harder for me this time. The things that have helped the most for me are Rescue Remedy, making sure I shower daily and get dressed in real clothes, trying to sleep whenever I can (which is getting awfully challenging now that my helpers have gone), and connecting with people (especially mom friends with more than one child who have BTDT). Hope you feel better soon!

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Thanks mamas. My mom just left for the airport, and I knew it would be tough today. DD1 just fell asleep on the couch as we were getting ready to go to the grocery store. She's been feeling so lousy for 4 days now, that I don't have the heart to wake her up. But of course, I'm feeling very off balance because it messed up my plan for the morning- having something to take my mind off my mom leaving.

DH is home and is wonderful. I keep reminding myself to breathe in and breathe out and quit trying to handle everything at once. It helps to here everyone else's experiences with this, too.
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Get yourself a little treat at the grocery store if you can -- a candle or a CD or something.

I am so excited b/c we are going to a real restaurant today!!! I haven't left the house yet, and of course, neither has Baby.

You know what else would help? Being able to wear *regular* pants. It is definitely going to be a while for me. And I wish the bras I ordered would get here -- having some shaping would help me not feel like such a gargantuan.


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