The woman who I asked to watch dd is pregnant with her first, so I feel bad asking her to do it. She isn't due until late March, so hopefully it will work out. Another woman from dh's work just offered, but I didn't get along with her at all when we met. Neither of these woman seem to be into NFL and I am going to have to teach them how to use my diapers, what to feed dd, and I'm praying that they will not let her cry or sleep alone. Anyone else going through something similar? Thanks for letting me vent. :
i know it's hard in a new area. have you looked into LLL meetings in your town? i'm going to try to get to one here early next month.
A doula who married a cop & became a mama to 3 boys: G 12/22/00, my rainbow baby B 2/2/07 and L 2/10/10 my CBA2V baby, waiting for my little caboose late February 2013 & always remembering my two angels 2006 & 2012.
We decided to ask a family in our church who is also from out of town, and understands the whole lack of support system thing. I thought they would think about it for a while, but it took them two seconds to say yes. Then another woman called and said that because her dh is a farmer and he can stay at home until everyone is off to school now she could stay with ds during the night and then move him in the morning if need be. So that was a big releif.
I totally understand your anxiety, though. Its really hard when you don't know people as well as you would like and you have to rely on them to take care of your child. But it will only be for a short time, so I would go with your gut intuition with whose offer of help to accept.
I hope someone amazing turns up to help.
I hope things work out for you and that you are able to relax during labor.
Amy - Blessed wife to Jesse (the best dad in the world), mother of 10 on earth plus 8 in heaven. PROUD to be a Catholic! :
MIL has caused a lot of grief in my life as you can tell!
I either hope I birth while she is in FL or that they come back thinking I will birth soon and then I don't birth for another few weeks! I'm SO bad... but she's crossed some pretty big boundaries and I haven't appreciated that...
My parents live 450 miles away - my mom MIGHT be here for the birth BUT she is pretty much useless (sorry Mom, I love ya, but you are) when it comes to taking care of DS. She's got some health problems and uses them as excuses for everything!
I have friends who will be back ups for the back up if need be, and honestly, I'd almost rather leave him with them rather than any of my IL's, but DH won't have that...