Join Date: Feb 2005
Location: the great white north
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So, here's the thing. As I've mentioned before, dh is a minster. And most of our congregation is in the 60+ category and all their children and grandchildren are in bigger centers. And when we came here ds 1 was about 6 weeks old, so we ended up visiting a lot of people with a very tiny baby (like a 2 or 2 1/2 month old) who was very fussy, because they all wanted to meet us.
But as of today we had our first invite to "just come over and visit after the baby". But even if this babe has an easier temperment, I know I'm going to spend the whole visit alternately caring for the baby and running after ds. Which the church people think is a riot. But which is abseloutely exhausting for me, because when I say "we really need to go" they don't listen and keep talking and pretending I didn't REALLY mean it becuase we've only been there an hour and they ahven't even made the tea yet . . . . And none of them consider the fact that 10 or 15 OTHER people are going to invite us to "just come over for a little visit" sometime in Feb.
Plus everyone is going to just "drop by with casseroles and gifts to catch a glimpse of the baby (and me in my post-partum disshevelment and my messy house and grumpy toddler who hates it when people drop by and try to make conversation with him) anyway. Which I don't mind, becuase usually people only stay around 10 min. or so and are very kind.
So, I told dh that I wasn't going to visit with anyone for the first few months after the baby. Considering that these people are not family or close friends and will see the baby at church a few weeks after he or she is born, I think that's reasonable, don't you? Especially in -30 weather.
Also, what are you doing as far as people visiting / taking the baby out to visit?
Jill , mom to Andrew (09/04), Aaron(01/07), and Emma (11/09)