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Old 03-27-2011, 02:05 AM - Thread Starter
 
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I had no idea it would be so tough.  Really feeling overwhelmed with the whole breastfeeding thing right now.  I don't know if it's due to the postpartum hemmorhage I had (1000 mL blood loss) or what but my milk seems to not be all there (i.e. not much of it).  I've been pumping for a week (baby is almost 2 weeks old) and I get about 2 oz after a 1 hr session which is barely enough for a meal for my little one.  She dropped from 7 lb 12 oz to 6 lb 14 oz before we knew there was a problem and the MW started talking about a pediatric consult.  I asked her what that would likely entail and she said basically they would recommend we supplement with formula - which we'd really like to avoid so that's when we rented a pump and started the pumping/feeding every 2-3 hrs around the clock schedule.

 

I'm taking blessed thistle (4 caps, 3 x daily) and fenugreek (3 caps, 3 x daily).  We started on domperidone a few days ago, though just 24 hrs ago increased the dosage to 4 tablets, 3 x daily so I'm still waiting for that to kick in.  One of the issues is that she won't latch most of the time, I guess because she got frustrated that not much was coming out before we knew there was an issue.  So we are finger feeding with a tube (at least no artificial nipples, right?).  I'm hoping to get in to Dr. Newman's clinic to get some help with the latching, will hear about setting up an appointment next week, hopefully soon.  Crossing fingers that they can help us get past that issue and learn a good latch to help her get as much milk at the breast as possible.  If that doesn't work then I think we may be out of options sadly.

 

She's currently at 7 lbs 2 oz so we're out of the "red zone" but I'm worried we'll be back in it again in a week when she hasn't regained her birth weight by 3 weeks of age as they'd like.  I should mention that all along we've had plenty of wet and dirty diapers (always above what the breastfeeding charts say you should have), she's pretty much a peeing and pooping machine!  She never had even a hint of jaundice, is very strong, all vital signs point to a healthy baby, not a starving one.  It's just so frustrating and I don't know how much longer I can keep this up for...

 

Sorry, I know this is really rambl-y, I guess that's just where my mind is at.  Just hoping for some support, maybe advice or encouragement.  I feel like all I do is pump and pump and feed, like I'm not getting to enjoy my baby because each time I'm sitting there looking at her pretty face I keep thinking I should be pumping because she'll get hungry and if I haven't pumped enough there won't be any food for her.  Argh, the pressure!  And the postpartum hormones are not helping any either!

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Wow, 2 oz. an hour after nursing is a lot! And a baby that young drinking that much is a lot, too! It sounds, IMO, like everything is fine. Some babies just take longer to regain birth weight. My DS2 took almost a month, but he was steadily gaining, his diaper output was fine, and he wasn't showing any signs of dehydration, so we just let him gain at his own pace. No pumping or supplementing.... Just the breast. 

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You are doing fabulously - well done for tackling things head on.  Your determination will pay off (as the previous poster said, it does sound as if it already is), and it's great that you are heading for a consult for Dr Newman.

 

Postpartum hemorhage and low hemoglobin can play real havoc with lactation bother in terms of milk "coming in," and supply, but with time and rest as you heal your supply should kick in.  You are doing all the right things in the meantime to get your supply underway - I really hope that you are also managing to get some rest as this is very important in helping you heal.  Easier said than done with a newborn, I know, especially since you are also trying to pump to boost supply - I hope you have offers of help you can take advantage of, and rest up as much as you can with your wee one.  Lots of cuddles and skin-to-skin can really help stimlate supply.

 

Hang in there - you're doing a brilliant job in very challenging circumstances.  Do what you can, please don't push yourself, and let time and nature take care of the rest. 

 

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Wow, 2 oz. an hour after nursing is a lot! And a baby that young drinking that much is a lot, too! It sounds, IMO, like everything is fine. Some babies just take longer to regain birth weight. My DS2 took almost a month, but he was steadily gaining, his diaper output was fine, and he wasn't showing any signs of dehydration, so we just let him gain at his own pace. No pumping or supplementing.... Just the breast. 

I should clarify, I get 2 oz from an hour long pumping session, we're not doing much actual nursing as I can only get her to latch on about 1 or 2 times per day (which makes me very happy when it does happen!).  That's one of the things I'm hoping I can get some help on from Dr. Newman.

 

Thank you for sharing your experience with your DS, I'm pondering what to do if we're not back up to weight by the 3 week mark and I will consider just continuing what we are already doing.  It's hard to get the peds recommendation because we're not meeting the "guidelines" (and I know my MW has to tell us this, one of the downfalls of having regulated midwifery, but she also always points out all the positives and reminds us that it's completely up to us).  Ahh, the hard parenting choices are beginning.

 

Thank you for the kind words ladies.  We're just plugging right along today, I'm trying to think positive and not over-think things too much.  Oddly, I find night-time much easier emotionally, probably because I'm not thinking about the past or the future but just doing what needs to be done right now so she has enough food for her next meal.  Maybe that's what I need to focus on to get through this, think less and just try and go with the flow (easier said than done, right?).

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Wow, we had a lot of the same issues!  My baby is 7 weeks old now and things have gotten better than they were those first two weeks, although I'm still having supply and latch issues so I feel your pain with pumping and pumping/feeding around the clock!  I nurse him about once/day.

 

My DS lost a full lb (from 8lbs2oz down to 7lbs2oz) in the first week BUT we also didn't have any dirty diapers that week.  From what my midwife said, weight loss + low output is a cause for concern but one or the other on its own is not as concerning.  Your baby is gaining now so that's good.  It did take us 3 weeks to get back up to his birthweight but we had to start using donor breastmilk to get there.

 

I was pumping 35-40 minutes and my LC encouraged me to try for 20 minutes instead.  I was causing myself a lot of pain by pumping that much.  Maybe check with and LC or Dr. Newman (wow, you are lucky!) to see if you should be pumping for that long.

 

I am still only pumping between 1-2 oz so for your newborn, 2 oz is not bad.  I was on domperidone and now I'm on Reglan but neither has helped me at all.  Sounds like your milk supply issues are not as severe as mine.  You are on your way!

 

I find that I have days where I am still completely overwhelmed and want to give up.  And then there are days where I am very hopeful that we will get each issue fixed, one-by-one, in time.  I would say to try and focus on one thing at a time to keep from getting too overwhelmed.  I personally had to focus on increasing my supply before I could think about getting him back to the breast more often.  The weight-loss was a big part of this.  But with your little one gaining, you may find that you have different priorities so just try to focus on one thing at a time.


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Well I'm a little discouraged right now. greensad.gif  The midwife came by this morning to weigh Elizabeth again and she's still the same 7 lbs 2 oz.  This was before her morning meal so who knows if that would have made a difference.  She recommended supplementing her with an ounce of formula with each feed to help her gain some weight.  Sigh...

 

So I don't know what to do, at first I thought well, I'll give it a few more days, get that appointment at the Newman clinic, after all she's not losing weight and still has good poop and pee output (8 pee and 5 poop diapers in the last 24 hrs I believe).  And I know they're just recommending that because they have this arbitrary deadline to regain the birth weight.  But damn it makes me feel awful to think that my baby may not be getting enough to eat and is hungry all because I'm hung up on this idea of only giving her mama milk.  Why the heck can't I just make more milk?  What the heck are these giant boobs good for if they can't even feed my baby?  Grr, so frustrating and I don't know what to do.  Sorry, just having a little pity party here, DH is busy with work so I don't have anyone else to talk to.

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Are you sure it's a matter of you just not making enough milk? Have you weighed your baby just before and just after a feeding to see exactly what is getting into your baby's tummy? It could be your baby has a problem transferring milk. Mine did and it was because of a posterior tongue tie that no one properly diagnosed (not the LC, not the pediatrician, etc.) and a high, arched palate.  Even though he sucked enthusiastically (though it hurt me) and appeared to be doing every thing right, my nipple was getting lost in his high palate and the tied tongue wasn't reaching my nipple to compress it properly.  My milk supply DID diminish. A lot. Because it wasn't being drained properly. And even though he was my 5th baby, these things were not obviously apparent to me (or anyone else for that matter). I did weigh him before and after a feed and found that he was getting about 1/2 ounce after 10-15 minutes of active nursing!  My letdowns are slow and spaced very far apart.  

 

Is your baby sleepy?  It could be a sign of lack of calories. Is your baby fussy? Another sign of hunger.  I started pumping and did end up supplementing while we were figuring this all out. It was very sad and I cried, but when my baby guzzled down a bottle of my milk and formula (mostly formula) and was finally content and satisfied for the first time, I was so sad but amazingly relieved.  I'm still pumping and I only have to supplement with formula a few ounces a day.  I'm still working to increase my supply (just started Dom, too). But I definitely recommend looking into the possibility that your milk supply has diminished because your baby isn't effectively transferring the milk. I'm sure Dr. Newman can help with that. That's wonderful that you get to see him.  Please don't feel bad if you have to supplementt. The  most important thing is to feed the baby. Do you have any nursing friends that would donate milk to you?


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One more thing about the diapers. . . in the beginning, I thought my baby had enough diapers.  They were "wet." However, after I started giving him the bottles of bm/formula, he started having VERY wet, sopping diapers.  It made me realize that what I thought was sufficient output before, really wasn't.


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But damn it makes me feel awful to think that my baby may not be getting enough to eat and is hungry all because I'm hung up on this idea of only giving her mama milk.  Why the heck can't I just make more milk?  What the heck are these giant boobs good for if they can't even feed my baby?


I know EXACTLY how you feel, word for word.

 

Also, we had a very similar experience to homemademom. Baby sort of tricked us all into thinking he was nursing well.  Lost a full pound in the first week.  My baby WAS starving.  We thought posterior tongue tie but have a local specialist in that and that wasn't it.  I can only pump about 10 oz a day and baby drinks about 24-28 now at 7 weeks.  Still working on pumping but haven't been able to increase my supply at all, even on Domp and then Reglan.


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Hang in there, Ola. You're doing all the right things.I know how you feel - I've been there, twice! - and I know it's so, so hard when you're totally sleep-deprived, feel like a failure and are hooked up to the pump when you want to be cuddling your babe.

PPs have made great points but I wanted to add kudos for avoiding artificial nipples (check out a SNS or Lact-Aid for supplementing at the breast, too) and that supplementing now does not mean that you'll never be able to exclusively breastfeed. Even if you do have to supplement long term, it doesn't have to be the end of nursing either. Given the small amount of BM you'll need, you could also look into milk donation.

Both my sons lost too much weight and didn't start gaining (despite good output!) . Even with the dom and pumping, DS1 needed 8 oz of formula a day throughout infancy but never had a bottle after we got the Lact-Aid and nursed happily until he was 18 months - which I still treasure. DS2 is now six weeks and after the whole dom/pumping/supplementing treadmill (including an ounce of formula a feed to start) is exclusively breastfed and growing beautifully and I'm phasing out the pumping.

It is hard to contemplate supplementing but LCs will tell you that the first priority is feeding the baby and that many babes come back to the breast and get better at nursing when they're well fed.

 

 

 


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Thank you so much for your kind words mamas, they mean more to me than you can imagine.hug2.gif  After much soul searching today I've decided to go ahead with the ounce of formula per feeding, what a tough choice but I think it's the right one for my little girl.  No one said being a parent would be easy, right?

 

I really wanted everything to be perfect and so far it pretty much has been: we got pregnant quickly, had a healthy and easy pregnancy, fast labour at home and with no drugs.  Got the cloth diapers, co-sleeping, baby-wearing thing going on (well not so much baby-wearing now because I'm hooked up to the pump, of course).  I'm not good at doing things half-way.  It sucks that breastfeeding isn't following the trend but we'll keep at it and hopefully can still make it work.

 

Now, what about formula choices?  This is something I hadn't even contemplated before - anyone have any suggestions?

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I might be the only one recommending this here but...I have heard that the formula industry is so tightly-regulated that all formulas are essentially the same.  That's why they advertised so hard when the first company added DHA....that was the only thing that made their formula different.  Now, I think most companies add it.  That being said, going with a generic brand would mean you are saving money AND not giving your money to companies that will put it into advertising.  So if it were me, I would try a generic first.  I heard one doctor say that the organic formulas can be gas-causing...no idea why that would be true - probably just anecdotal.


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So DH picked up some formula this morning.  We haven't used it yet but at least we have it on hand.  It could be my imagination but I feel like I'm pumping a bit more today, so yay for that.  We haven't nursed today though, boo!  And on another good note I heard back from the Newman clinic and we have an appt for this Thursday which is great, I was worried it would be a while since I know they are busy.  So some good updates today, I thought I should post to offset the bad ones from before.

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have you tried using a sns to feed her?http://www.medelabreastfeedingus.com/products/breastfeeding-devices/51/supplemental-nursing-system-sns


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If I had to choose a formula, I would choose one without DHA/ARA. That could be hard to find. 

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Remember that Ontario has some great mom-to-mom milk sharing (http://www.facebook.com/?sk=messages&tid=1916173347330#!/HM4HBSWO for south western, others available too) if you are considering milk supplementation.

 

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Well, our appointment is today so we'll see how that goes.  My milk production was really good yesterday, I was able to set aside 4 ounces for our appt today and still feed the little monkey.  Plus the midwives came by this morning and she's at 7 lbs 5 oz, so a gain, yay!

 

I haven't tried an SNS but yesterday I used the finger feeding tube at my breast to get her started and after a few sucks I took it away and she kept nursing which was great.  Hopefully we'll get lots more tricks like that today plus learn about how to get a good latch.  I have high hopes, I'll let you know how it goes!

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I just found this thread, and I see you have an appointment with Dr. Newman, but I'll throw my $.02 in for anyone else who might want some additional ideas...

First, I wonder if YOU are getting enough calories and enough water?  If you aren't getting enough, you might not be able to make enough especially considering your blood loss.  If you are always attached to the pump, you might not be eating as much as you think.  Try adding a few extra meals and see if it makes a difference.  I was struggling with my twins in the beginning, too.  I was nursing so much that I hardly had time to eat.  Eating more often did the trick.

 

I think you need to focus on getting baby to latch well.  For a multitude of reasons this is preferable than pumping.  A few ideas for developing a better latch... It is not too late to allow baby to self-attach.  If you are not familiar with this, check out: http://www.childbirthjoy.com/breast_crawl.html and watch the video linked (fast forward to the first minute mark) and also read http://theperfectlatch.wordpress.com/category/self-attachment/.  I've found this process really helpful with my twins, who were a little earlier than all their brothers and sisters (but term).  It can also help to take a bath with your baby, and work on breastfeeding during that time.  Also, when you finger feed, or if you just finger suck, rub your finger gently on the baby's palate.  It might help to do a little finger sucking right before attempting to latch.  If babe isn't opening fully, press down on her chin when you latch her on to encourage her to open wider.  

 

Good luck!  I hope your appointment goes very well and you get some really good support.  You CAN do this.  I was feeling very inadequate when my twins weren't gaining in the beginning, even though I have successfully nursed all my children, some up to 3 years old!  I love Dr. Newman.  Even though I'm in the states, I contacted him by email last year about some issues I was having with my toddler and he was very responsive.  


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I hope your appointment went well and yay for gaining!


 


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The appointment was good and we got some tips and guidance on latching and positioning, etc.  I learned how to differentiate drinking from just sucking which I wasn't sure about before, and she was doing lots of good drinking at the breast which is awesome.  I'm still having issues actually getting her on, she refuses the breast a lot so we're still only nursing about once a day but I'm hopeful that with more time and help we can get there.  We have another appt scheduled for the 11th, may be sooner if there is room, we are on a wait list for any openings next week.  We saw one of their pediatricians also and apparently we are having some thrush/yeast issues and she has a very slight bit of a tongue tie (not bad but not perfect either) so we're pondering what to do about that.

 

Still pumping lots and at last I have a bit more milk than I need so I'm hopeful that our appt next Tuesday (3 weeks old) we can be most of the way back to birth weight which would be a huge relief and take some of the pressure off of me.  Once we meet that milestone and I have a bit of a reserve milk stash I am planning to put a lot more emphasis on nursing rather than pumping.

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Fabulous news! Did Dr. Newman talk to you about supplementing  at the breast? It's really the best way IMO to stop the breast refusal.

 

 


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I never had the issue of DD not gaining back to birth weight, but she was always very, very tiny as a baby (often down to 10th or 20th percentile). She nursed a TON (about every 60-90 minutes 24 hours a day until she was 6 months), but was always happy. I think that's the important thing. If she's not acting like she's starving and she's still doing a good amount of diapers, I don't think weight is as big of a deal. Of course keep working on weight gain, but just remember you have a happy baby. 

 

Also, a pump never gets as much out as a baby. Even hospital-grade pumps. Babies are just more efficient. I'd pumped while nursing on the other side in the past and I got WAY more than when I just pumped alone. I know you're not able to latch her a lot, but when you do latch her maybe you could try that? Also, try to work on the latch sooner rather than later because she'll get way more out than your pump can which means more food in her tummy! 


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eat lots of oatmeal. it really helps you produce more milk.

keep nursing overnight. it is the BEST time to produce the BEST milk for your baby.

i had two slow gainers. it is nerve wracking. my best advice is to just be sure you keep her nursing. that's the most important thing -- even if you supplement with formula or pumped milk. those things are for now, in the beginning. 

by six months or so you will start giving solids, and at that point you can cut out the formula/pumped milk (replacing those with the solids) and keep the nursing.

by the time she's a year old, provided that you are still nursing, you'll be long off bottles entirely and baby will know comfort and feeding at your breast.

then, you can keep going as long as you want.

relax. things are going better than you think!


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Thanks for the tips ladies!  It really means a lot to know that you're out there listening and sympathizing.  I've started eating oatmeal in the "may help, can't hurt" category.  We've been able to get her to latch most times recently (just in the last two days) by using the feeding tube at the breast which is awesome.  And though I know babies are supposed to get more out than a pump, I feel like it's the opposite in our case - she nurses for a long time (which is good for stimulating my supply at the very least!) and still be a bit fussy till I feed her some expressed milk.  By a long time I mean she will feed for about 30 min per side, then switch back and forth (when she stops swallowing even with breast compressions and falls asleep) 4 times, so roughly 2 hrs of nursing.  So that makes me think we have lots of work to do on her latch, even though it's not particularly painful it's probably not the most efficient.

 

We have another appointment at the Newman clinic on Monday morning so we just have to get through the weekend as best we can.  I called to ask about a waitlist spot and there was one available today but silly me turned it down when we started being able to latch her on, before I realized she doesn't seem to be transferring milk well.  Doh!

 

I'm getting tired though, tired of being told to supplement with formula, of being told that it's all in my head and I just need to relax and think positive thoughts to make more milk, of being told to get away from the house and go for a walk without the baby when what I really miss is spending time WITH the baby because I'm so damn busy pumping and everything else.  And all this coming from a midwife, I can't even imagine what I'd be hearing from the average pediatrician!

 

But we are making progress, she's latching on pretty often now and I'm able to pump milk to feed her.  Just have to keep plugging along...

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Yay!!  You are doing great!  While I'm sure it doesn't seem like a lot, getting her to latch more often is significant progress.  My twins were doing just like your little girl, latched on for hours and still didn't seem to be getting enough.  Being vigilant about compression and my water and calorie intake (a couple bowls of oatmeal a day, too) and they were doing much better within days.  You are a wonderful mama.


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So on Thursday the midwife came by again for a weight check and we've gained 3 oz so she's at 7 lbs 8 oz, yay!  Or I thought that was good news, apparently it's not and our midwife did a long talk about how she's not gaining fast enough, she's worried her brain isn't getting enough nutrients and we may stunt her growth, all kinds of guilt-inducing things and recommended formula again.  She also wanted us to go to this breastfeeding drop-in clinic to get help latching since our Newman centre appt isn't till Monday.  So monkey and I packed up and went first thing on Friday.

 

What a terrible idea that was!  I didn't pump before leaving since I wanted my breasts to have plenty of milk when we tried feeding her so she wouldn't get frustrated with low flow.  Well the LC there was entirely useless.  In the 3 hours we spent there she tried to latch her on just two or three times (unsuccessfully), then said she clearly doesn't want to feed since she is refusing the breast, and we should wait.  I fed her a bit with the finger-feeding to take the edge off because she was so frustrated, then sat, waited while the lady did stuff on her computer, left us for a while, I listened to my baby cry as I tried to get her to feed and got ignored by the LC.  After 3 hours I decided enough is enough, so I fed my poor hungry girl with finger feeding again and packed up to go home.  I told the lady that we were leaving and I was disappointed because I didn't get the help I was hoping for and I was very clear about what I needed (tips for working on the refusal to latch and help with getting a better latch so she can get more milk when she does go to the breast).  Clearly that was a bad idea because then I had to listen to her tell me all the "helpful" things she'd done while we were there (basically telling us that the things we are already doing, supplements etc, are good and to keep them up).

 

So after all was said and done I'd wasted 6 hours on this trip, didn't pump for even longer, and went through all but an oz of my pumped milk stash.  I got home really upset, spent the afternoon and evening pumping like crazy and in the end didn't have enough milk to give my girl the 3 oz she needs to not be hungry for her evening and night feeding.greensad.gif  So we had to mix in a couple of ounces of formula with the expressed milk that I did have.  I cried when I fed it to her, but I had to do it, I couldn't let her be hungry because of my stubbornness.  Heck, I'm crying now just thinking about  it.

 

But I'm so furious that this one person managed to sabotage my weeks of effort to have my daughter be exclusively breast fed.  I'm furious with my midwife for insisting we go to this place and telling us how good it was and the constant guilt trips.  I'm angry with my breasts (how ridiculous, right?) that they couldn't step up to the challenge and make just two more ounces of milk for me.  But you know one of the things I was worried about was that once I gave her some formula it would be so easy to let things slide and we'd be feeding her nothing but in a couple of days.  And I don't think that's going to happen.  This just gave me so much more motivation to work on things, to get her back to the breast and make this work.  Argh, why does it have to be so hard?

 

Anyway, thanks for letting me get all that out.

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i'm so sorry for what you are going to and i think you are a great mom for trying so hard. i hope things get better and from personal experience (lots of trouble/booby traps/formula supplementing for 1st 4 months:( ) that if you can get your lil one nursing well (my ds is still nursing at 2.5 years) those first 4 months while bittersweet do not bother me so much now because i know i tried my hardest which is what your doing. even if the worst happens and you cant continue to breastfeed, you know that you did/are doing everything you can and every drop helps. but i think you can do it! ::hugs::

 

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I'm so sorry that were were sabotaged. Actually, I'm downright ANGRY that you were sabotaged. Cuss.gif You are working so hard and doing so well - it is completely WRONG that the health care system messes up mamas and babies like this.

 

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I can feel your emotions right through your post.  How disappointing!  You had to do that little bit of formula because we HAVE to feed our babies when they are hungry.  Breastmilk is natural but so is eating!  You have a lot of strength to use your bad experience to try that much harder.  I'll be thinking of you.  I'm having milk supply issues and it's comforting to know that we are not alone in our struggles!


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Well, my supply definitely has gone down in the last few days it seems.  Maybe it's the lack of sleep or DH thinks I may not be eating enough.  We're going to try and work on both of those to see if things improve.  I don't feel like I have much of an appetite which along with all the crying may be a sign of some PPD going on, I don't know.  We've been feeding DD half/half breastmilk and formula and at least it doesn't seem to be having any bad effects on her except for increased spitting up (which may just be due to the extra food she is getting?).  At this rate we'll have her back to her birth weight by Monday, so at least that is something to look forward to.


DH made me laugh yesterday, I was upset about the formula thing (again) and he said "you know you're giving her baby formula, not anthrax, right?".  Good point, must keep things in perspective, lol.

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