Afraid my 11-month-old is weaning before either one of us are ready--I don't know what to do--desperate! - Mothering Forums

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#1 of 2 Old 03-26-2012, 04:04 PM - Thread Starter
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My DS hasn't nursed since last Tuesday (6 days).  He has a double ear infection, and is teething.  He will eat some food, he will drink water (enthusiastically I might add--in other words there doesn't seem to be a "sucking" issue) from a sippy.  I am pumping every 2 hours, taking supplements, etc. to keep my milk supply up but it's dwindling.  I am gently offering the breast every 4 hours or so, only to be met with crying and arching his back as soon as I even attempt.  I am offering expressed milk--warm and cool--in a sippy, bottle, etc. and he pushes it away.  I've called IBCLC's, La Leche League, etc. and they all say "you're doing great, keep it up!".  So I feel pretty confident I'm doing what I need to try and keep him breastfeeding.


My intuition says he's probably done.  I am going to push through, I've promised myself that I will push through for AT LEAST 2 weeks after he's recovered.  But this boy LOVES to eat what we eat; and since about 5-6 mos. I've had to nurse him in a dark, quiet room with white noise otherwise he wants to be busy and not nurse.  I just have a feeling.


And I feel DEVASTATED.  This feels like such a loss.  I never even saw it coming, I never had a chance to treasure those last few nursings because I thought we'd be doing this for a long time. 


I always hear from the AP community "babies almost NEVER self-wean before age 2"...but what if they do?  Any thoughts, suggestions?  Either for getting him back to the breast, or how you dealt with it when it happened before you were ready?


Thanks so much.  :-)

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Your are doing a great job.


Since he is pushing away a cup of breastmilk, I wonder if the taste or composition has changed.


Are you excercising more, menstruating, changed your diet (food allergens?)....any changes? Had his stools been different prior to the nursing strike? Any physical changes (teething and ear ache noted) of baby (rash?)


Have you tried nursing in an upright position, such as in a carrier? It may help relieve some of the ear pressure, if position is more comfortable, he may be more likely to latch on. Motion may help he is near the breast, he may latch on.


Oh, I feel for you....I would be probably feel the same way you do!



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