Join Date: May 2005
Location: #12 Grimmauld Place
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OK, I grew up very mainstream. My pre-kid friends were mainstream, with one faraway friend being AP in that she bf until age 2. But the ones I had daily contact with were mainstream.
I don't know exactly how it happened or when, but somehow, I went from someone who thought 'when they bite, doesn't that mean it's time to wean?' to "Yeah, I'll breastfeed to at least 2" and I cosleep when I never thought I would...I stopped vaxing, and I don't take everything any doctor says as the final truth, my whole experience with my son taught me how stupid that is.
And in all of this, I woke up one day to realize that it's the norm amongst my son's friends to bf till at LEAST 15 months (that's my mostly mainstream friend), he has ONE friend who didn't bf past about 4 months. All his other little friends are still nursing, at the 18-19 month range. (and we know a couple of 3's still nursing) (And the one who was weaned early we don't see often as they now live 4 hours away, it was a little over 1.)
Anyway, the point is, I think I find it harder to 'just get over' not nursing him because we're around so many little people his age who still are nursing, and i did have it in my head we'd go till 2. But I think I would've let it go a little easier if it wasn't 'the norm' with everyone we're around to still be nursing, kwim?
The other thing is, I've been on other groups, and this is one thing I felt a lot of moms there didn't get...how do you pump all the time, an activity that requires you to not attend to your baby, but still be AP? I got to a point where I just couldn't do it anymore, he wanted ME, and I had to give him what he needed. Yes, breastmilk is important too, but what goes through a baby's mind when Mama is right there, Mama is who they want, but Mama seems to be ignoring that? I had others willing to help, but as he got older, he wanted ME, which is the way it's supposed to be. And *I* needed to spend time being his mother rather than his milk provider. Does anyone here 'get it?' Nobody else seemed to.
And I'll confess, I know my son will be a bit over 2 when the new one comes, but I do have this little secret 'fantasy' that out of curiosity he'll want to try it out too, and it'll all work for him and we'll FINALLY have what I wanted for so long....yup, i would let him too, why not? I don't think it'll REALLY happen, I know that even older weaned bf kids often 'forget' and can't when they try again, but the thought has entered my mind.