so i formula fed my daughter. i am in the 4%(or whatever low number it is) of women that CANT produce (or produce enough) breastmilk to sustain their childs life. i had a breast reduction.
i KNOW i couldnt give my child breast milk. i KNOW that breast is best. i GREIVE about the loss of our breastfeeding relationship.
but i do not feel that the women who make comments about formula feeders are talking about me.
i beleive that they are talking about the women who choose to formula feed, without even trying to breastfeed, or that switch to formula after a day because "their milk didnt come in", the women who think breastfeeding is gross and icky, the women that would rather give their child fourth best from the start as a choice (and not a necesity to keep the child alive), the women that beleive their breasts are only for sexual purposes and wont be brought down to animal level by feeding their young the way nature intended. (all things i have heard mothers say to excuse their formula feeding choice)
women who CANNOT breastfeed, like myself, like you, like many other MDC mamas are not included in that group.
our babies are alive today because of formula, because it fed our children when we couldnt.
Formula isnt poison. it hasnt killed our children. breast IS best. but we did what we had to do given the resources we have/had available to us to keep our children not only surviving but thriving.
so when women make commens about formula feeders, i dont lump myself in with the group of women they are talking about.
i know you have a hard time with your own personal feelings about your infant feeding needs(not choices, but NEEDS)
please mama, try not to beat yourself up over it anymore. you did what you could to keep your child alive. feel confident that you are a good mother to your baby/s.
sometimes we let our own grief and pain blind us from seeing the bigger picture.
i think the bigger picture in this instance is that no one IS talking about you or your situation, but the CHOICE made my so many formula feeding moms, that can(or could be able to) physically produce milk, but instead make the CHOICE to give their child fourth best. (WHO states first best is breastfeeding, second best is mothers milk in a bottle, third is donated milk from another mother, and fourth being formula)
no one can MAKE you feel anything. we all have our own feelings that we can chose to make valid or dismiss as reactionary.
)O( unschooling, witchy mum to Addy(7) and Niamh(4)Living with an invisible chronic illness.Fat and hairy. And happy with both *( o Y o )*