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#31 of 53 Old 01-25-2007, 11:56 AM
 
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YES!!!

There were 2-3 months where we had sex almost every single day and sometimes twice in a day, I just couldn't get enough and it was like I was running my own porn library in my head most days - I felt like an 18 year old boy Thankfully my DH is always willing to ablige.

Now I guess the hormones have calmed a bit and we are down to 2-4 times a week depending on how I feel.

Having sex is great for you during pregnancy!

We generally resume activities 3-4 weeks after the baby is born and we each have a hard time during that 3-4 weeks

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Hmmm. Occasionally. Its been once a week for the last 3 mos. We can only do it with him behind so that really takes a lot of the fun out of it for me. I've been warning dh though that once I'm term he has to get the baby out so rest up now . I think he took me seriously. lol

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I've had more sex during this pregnancy than the rest of my life combined - which is great now, but I feel sad thinking that this libido is going to go away when I'm not pregnant.

It's funny though: When I think of how often we are, it's anywhere from 2-4 or 5 times a week. Which sounds like more average or low for others of you. Reminds me of that scene in Annie Hall, when the shrink asks each of them how often they are having sex: Him: "Hardly at all, maybe once or twice a week!" Her: "CONSTANTLY! About once or twice a week!"
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I have had a great sex drive during pregnancy, much better than before actually! The hard thing is that having sex with the baby there is really weird and hard for DW, and she feels awful that she feels that way and can't just "get over it." She not afraid of hurting the baby, but she said it's presence just makes it kind of difficult to really feel sexual.

I have to say, sometimes I feel really isolated because I rarely hear about other couples where the non-pregnant partner feels this way. Am I totally alone? It just f-ing sucks sometimes because I really need the intimacy right now. DW's anxiety has been bad too so it's not like this is the only factor making sex hard. It's just difficult because before pregnancy *she* was the one who wanted to have sex all the time and I didn't, and now it's completely reversed!
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I think it's kind of weird for my DH, too. I know he worries about hurting me, but I think he's so focused on the baby these days, he isn't seeing me as a very sexual being.

Which, at the moment, I don't mind. I don't FEEL very sexual.

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You are certainly not alone lunadoula. I guess when I think about it, it must be harder for someone on the outside, someone whose body isn't changing, to sense this understand this as natural and safe and have faith in the whole process...

My dp, while he intellectually knows sex won't hurt the baby, he can't help but feel that it might do some unknown bad thing. (could be excerbated by the fact that we both had a yeast infection and bv issues and we don't know who gave what to who ...) We've talked about it a lot, cause I know afterwards I'm not gonna want to do it for a LONG time so I feel like our time is kinda running out. But I also really don' t like the feeling that I have to *ask* for it. They're supposed to want it, and all the time right??? Cause we are the sexy pregnant people!

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Can't have it for another 2 weeks.

At my appt. today I had a swab test done, so I told the MW to check me since she was there anyway . I am 35 weeks today, 2 cm dialated and 50% effaced. So, not that any of us expects anything to happen, she said just in case . . .nothing to get labor going any further along at this point.

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We haven't in months. : DH didn't even get birthday sex.

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Mostly oral here...sorry way too much info but last night I did wake him up at 4am for some action lol!! Can't wait to see what he says when he gets home from work today lolololol!
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[QUOTE=Wild Flowers;7107591]I wouldn't feel guilty, I mean if I wasn't getting a massage with it, I am not sure if it would really be worth it.[QUOTE]

I have so been begging for these! But yes, uncomfortably so, more uncomfortable than last time if I recall. Funny when the midwife states sex as a way to bring on labor when preg with dd, I was asking what kind? Orgasmic, penetration, sperm, which??? Most of my friends couldnt bear it in the last few days!
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I remember at the end of my pregnancy with DD having sooo much sex. SHe was 10 days late and at that was induced. All that daily sex did nothing to put my into labor.

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I want a massage.

I think there's nothing more I want than that- too get a massage and to feel like dp understands how uncomfortable this is.
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I want a massage.

I think there's nothing more I want than that- too get a massage and to feel like dp understands how uncomfortable this is.
If it will make you feel better, this is my first pregnancy that I have been so lucky. Usually, my dh is really understanding. And almost always, sex is on his mind. It was just recently though that he put two and two together and saw that I was much more willing if he massaged me: As for understanding how uncomfy I am, only when he sees me try to move, most of the time he forgets that the big bump in front of me may hinder my movement...You could always try and bring up the fact that some partners of pregnant moms have found that there are rewards for a little massage... Of course, I also tried the reward thing for him thinking of names and we are still nameless...
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If it will make you feel better, this is my first pregnancy that I have been so lucky. Usually, my dh is really understanding. And almost always, sex is on his mind. It was just recently though that he put two and two together and saw that I was much more willing if he massaged me: As for understanding how uncomfy I am, only when he sees me try to move, most of the time he forgets that the big bump in front of me may hinder my movement...You could always try and bring up the fact that some partners of pregnant moms have found that there are rewards for a little massage... Of course, I also tried the reward thing for him thinking of names and we are still nameless...
Oh my. We're nameless too.

Rewards, huh? Sad that I might have to use sex as a bribe. Just doesn't make me feel too good that my body has changed so much that I can't be *touched* long enough to give me a back massage.
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Reading this thread, I am just a little jealous. Being preggo sends my libido thru the roof (i am also a scorpio) - and I have no one to take advantage of!!
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I want a massage.

I think there's nothing more I want than that- too get a massage and to feel like dp understands how uncomfortable this is.
I know that feeling. But I have a friend who is studying massage therapy and has studied prenatal massage. So I asked him what would I have to do to get a massage. So Tuesday between 12:30 and 3 I need to go to the place he has his class and I can get a free massage.

Change of subject: I would much rather take care of myself right now then put much effort in to anything. By the time DH gets home at night and we get to bed the thought is just to tiring.
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Red Raspberry Leaf Tea is my saving grace.
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Diane: The thing about sex that bring on labor is the prostaglandins from sperm. They help "ripen" the cervix. So, sperm on the cervix is the goal. But *ahem* ingested prostaglandins are also supposed to help. A friend who's a hb midwife was passing on advice through another friend when I was facing induction: "Tell her she will ingest prostaglandins and she will like it!" It was so funny - being ordered to perform fell@tio for medical reasons... And your orgasms release hormones also - not that send you into labor, but that are helpful as labor nears. Can't remember the details there. And nipple stimulation can bring on contractions.

So, I have to share a TMI moment today - DH was home for the weekend and we were about to miss our window, so I hopped in the shower with him this morning - it was *such* a comedy of errors. It ended with me laughing and him saying "we're too old for this." We have a significant height difference - I'm 5'2", he's 6'4" - so standing up doesn't work (unless I'm on a step stool ) and a 6'4" man and 8 months preg woman on the bottom of a wee little tub is a joke. We ended up ditching intercourse for other types of sex.

Lunadoula - I think your partner's reaction is really common. I think it's partly fears about the baby, etc., but I think it's also about seeing a partner in a different light and fear of change. I would really sit down and talk about the fact that things are about to *really* change - you are about to give birth, which changes your body and outlook forever. you are about to be parenting together, which affects your relationship tremendously and can shift around your priorities, not to mention is a different level of stress to manage. Sex isn't everything, but it is important - it's something that if you aren't on the same page about can really affect your relationship. I would really have a heart-to-heart - not just about sex, but about being intimate and maintaining that connection through a time of intense change and transition.
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Second trimester I was wanting sex all the time and now not so much. It is uncomfortable. But since I am done being pregnant next week Thursday when I am 37 weeks we will be having lots of sex. My MW gave me the ok to do some natural induction things to have this baby ( Yes I know if the baby isn't ready to come, nothing will work) But I figured it would make my dh happy having lots of sex again.

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How so??

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I think my DH would be in heaven if we had it once or twice a week. I feel frisky sometimes, but it is awkward and uncomfortable and I doubt my DH is really attracted to the large belly! He is a rather superficial man who likes skinny women. He hasn't bugged me, although I keep telling him I need some, to ripen my cervix, but so far that hasn't worked. Either I am too tired or it just doesn't happen. It has been over a month since we tried last. Maybe tonight! lol
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Thanks for support and comments, it's been a bit better now that dw and I did sit down and talk about stuff last week. It really was less about sex and more about all the changes this pregnancy has brought and her feeling alone at times. Things have been better now, especially that I am done working (thank GOD) so we can spend more time together where I can actually listen instead of being half asleep.
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How so??
Just the relaxation factor
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