Which is not necessarily a bad thing but it all happened sort of fast!
From the start, dh and I agreed that if we need someone to watch ds that MIL would be the one we'd ask. But I wasn't totally convinced that I wanted someone else there. We were over at the IL's for dinner tonight and MIL was asking about how things were going with planning for the birth. She told us that if we needed her for anything, anytime that we should call her no matter what time it was or what our request was. This lead to me saying that we were thinking about having her there to take care of ds while I was in labor. Now I am a little stuffed up from a cold, but somehow the 'thinking about' part of the last sentence didn't seem to make it across the kitchen. She looked me in the eyes with such love and said that she was honored that we would ask her and what a gift it would be to be present for her grandchild's birth. She even got all teary over it and thanked us for the honor several times over the rest of the night!
How can I say no to that? So it appears that MIL will be at my birth.
Don't get me wrong, she is a wonderful lady and I am closer to her in many ways than I am to my own Mom (who is totally freaked about me having a HB
). MIL planned a HB with her first but went to the Birth Center when he flipped breech after 20+ hours of labor and then decided to go to the BC again with #2 because she liked it there so much. She used to be a hypnotherapist, knows reiki, and is into spiritual healing work, so I think her skills could be very useful. She even asked me to tell her what books she should read to prepare for being there.
Plus ds knows and loves her and she is totally accepting of the idea of leaving the birth if ds wants/needs to go - aka she's not attached to being a spectator at my birth.
So it's not really a bad situation. Just a little surprising to me that the decision got made so fast! Oh well, I guess I don't really have too much time to luxuriate over such decisions at this point.