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If you dig through or search this forum, you'll find a lot of applicable threads that will be helpful, but I'll try to cover your q's briefly.
I think most folks who sleep with a little one in their bed have the little one near the wall rather than in between parents. Some people do use rails, though you'd need to do some reading to figure out how to do it safely. Sidecarring the crib [like a motorcycle's sidecar] might be good in your situation with cold walls -- I haven't done it yet myself, but consensus seems to be to put the crib next to the wall and the bed right up against it, attaching it in some way so the two can't separate. You remove the crib side and make its mattress the same height as the bed. This allows babe to be right next to you for comforting and feeding, while parents still have the bed for themselves. I haven't covered all the safety issues, so please do a search either here or on google for particulars.
I sleep with our DS in our king, and my DH sleeps in the guest room unless we have a guest. DH is a pretty active sleeper and snores, so this situation works for us for now. DS is 9 mos, and can crawl and roll over, but has never tried to get down off the bed or fallen. I nap with him during the day, and at night, we put him to bed in the middle of a CA King, and we hear him as soon as he wakes up on the monitor and go down to comfort him and help him get back to sleep so it hasn't been an issue.
Mama to Charlie (4/08) and Toby (2/10)