@acpokey Delete my post if you must, I certainly will not interfere with your duties. I am a sleep deprived mom looking for concrete answers and while I respect and admire your viewpoints the truth is I am finding it impractical in terms of my situation. Thank you @asiago and @katelove for posting the links to the studies. I definately agree that babies need love and affection and sensitivity regarding their needs but perhaps their need for stability trumps all. I don't it matters how things become stable only that they do and they experience more distress when it isn't.