Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: North Carolina
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Mom to DS1 : 11/2004 and DS2 12/2008; happy to have discovered ECing, co-sleeping, and tandem nursing during our journey together
My worry is two fold: a) that I really should be balancing teaching him some self-soothing techniques with going to him and responding to his every need and b) without better sleep on my part I will not be as loving and responsive a parent as I'd like to be.
DH is very supportive of the AP parenting thing (now--it took some convincing), but unfortunately he has some health issues that preclude him from being very involved in the nighttime parenting. He does his best but DS does not sooth or go back to sleep for DH--it seems like as soon as DH is in charge of DS, ds is awake and wanting to play with daddy. There is not any type of daddy = sleep association, even though we have all shared the same bed for a while.
My thought right now is to try to relax more and go with the flow, while trying to get as much sleep as I can for now. Maybe gently work on having ds sleep without me next to him for some of the night and/or work on the PPO in the middle of the night?
I'd love to just have faith that he will learn to go to sleep on his own and sleep without me right next to him within the first year so we can just sit back and enjoy things as they are right now!
BTW, he sleeps well in the swing or pack n play for naps during the day. I'm not home then though--my sister is our nanny and she stays home with him....
Thanks for your input! It's nice to at least have an online support group, especially if I can't have a face-to-face one!