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My take on those situations in this: Are they being respectful of you and your choices? Most times, when people offer unsolicited advice it is to validate the choices they made by getting more people to agree and follow what THEY are advising. Your parenting is working for you and they can see that and it may bother them that there is an alternative which is nicer than what they have been doing.
I would say something like, "Gee, thanks, but our situation is currently working just fine for our family, ill let you know if I need help, thanks!". If they persist, then they are not affording you respect by listening to what you said, at which point, I would just ignore them and continue on, or knowing me start spouting of stats and offer THEM some educational emails/handouts. LOL But thats me.
There is a fixation in our society with making our babies more "independent", which is hilarious. Little humans who need us to do everything for them should be emotionally responsible for themselves? People forget that parenting does not stop at physically caring for our young, but emotionally providing for them too.
DS 10/09 DS 2/17/11 Blessing #3 sometime 2/13
: 01/10/2009 and 09/29/2011
how i do it, is that i don't really discuss my parenting style with people that i know do things "differently". i have the type of personality that is fairly open minded, so i am very able to listen objectively to someone else discussing THEIR parenting style. i believe there is always something to be learned, even from people who do things the opposite way that i would. however i also have my own strongly held beliefs, and they are so strongly held, that i don't need "validation" from anyone else in order to continue believing them. so, i'm not looking for an "OK" from anyone else, i could care less whether other people think it's "wise" to cosleep or not.
as a result, i really don't feel any "pressure" from anybody.
~Katie~ married to J, mom to DD- A 13 yrs ,DS- L 7yrs , and my little nursling DD2- R 5yrs.