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So far we haven't left him to babysit for her while I am out. He is afraid that if I am not there, he will be stuck letting her CIO until I get home. I'm afraid that if he does that, she will learn not to trust him, that he won't be there to comfort her. The idea of him having her CIO just horrifies me and makes me so sad, I don't want to have to leave her with him. I really hope this is just a short phase!!!
|So far we haven't left him to babysit for her while I am out.|
(unsolicited male perspective)
He's her dad, not a babysitter, right? anyway ..... I digress ..
Me and DH, parents to:
DD1 (06/09), Twin DD2 and DS1 (born 3/12- 6 weeks early due to IUGR)
He should suck it up and spend some 1:1 time with her.
You daughter loves her daddy too, she's very young and they have to just learn to interact together in a way that makes them both happy and content. I truly do not believe that co-sleeping is the issue in your situation, but rather one of comfort. Mostly the comfort your husband has with his child. The only way to work on that is to throw the two of them together and let them work it out.
Nine weeks is still very young but I think the right approach is not to have them avoid each other. He does need to figure it out. If he just puts her in a crib (not an option for me, we don't own one) then he's not trying enough but if he really wants to expand their bond, extend a little trust and leave the two of them together for an hour (make sure she's fed first). Then make it two. Don't go far and be on call but let them work it out, and I think it will work out. Good luck to all three of you :-)
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