I am an exhausted mom to a little 6 month old boy and writing to get help for sleeping. He was waking up every 2 hours at night since birth in pain and crying. Most of the time I nursed him back to sleep to comfort him, though sometimes he needed the swing or to sleep upright on my chest. I eventually figured out it was a dairy sensitivity and eliminated that.
Now his pain is gone (since about 4 months), but he is still waking up every 2 hours, and expecting to nurse. If I deny him, he cries hysterically, especially when I am near him. First, I tried bedsharing and nursing throughout the night, but this made him wake up even more-- sometimes every hour-- and I got no sleep at all. The more I nursed him, the more he woke up! I can't continue to do that because I am now working part time starting at 8 every day.
Out of desperation, my husband and I have been experimenting with a slightly more humane CIO approach, involving comforting him every few minutes while he's alone in his own crib (in our room), but its been a month and it's not working, and I just can't stand to hear him cry anymore! It just doesn't feel right at all!
I have read so many books that my head is spinning-- Dr. Sears, the No-Cry Sleep Solution, and Healthy Sleep, Happy Child. I have tried many suggestions and they seem to be geared to moms that stay home and can function after waking up all through the night.
Ideally, I would like to bedshare, and I don't mind waking up to nurse 2, 3, 4 times, but 7-10 times is too much. My husband is willing to help and comfort him by rubbing his back to get him back to sleep, but that still involves a fair amount of crying. We've been warned that if we pick him up and rock him, it will wake him up even more.
I would greatly appreciate any suggestions you might have about how to break his night waking in a more humane way!! Thanks!!